Don't wear what i want because i'm afraid of embarrassing others?

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Hi there! You may have seen my post about wearing wigs from a few days ago - aside from wigs, I also like to dress funny sometimes, too. Basically I really love lolita fashion, and I have for many years. I wear it sometimes but not always because, as the title question says, I'm afraid of embarrassing the people I'm with.

My mother has always supported me and my oddities, and I am really grateful. I've told my boyfriend that I love gothic and lolita fashion but he didn't really comment on it - if I remember correctly, he doesn't really care for it.

I don't know. As I'm getting older I realize that I want to do what makes me happy. At the same time, I don't want to embarrass him, or my parents, or my friends. Many of the people in my life don't seem to mind, and even get a kick out of it/admire that I could be so "daring", but I don't know.

Is this normal? I do dress the way I want sometimes regardless of what others think, but I want to be able to do it more often... and most importantly, my boyfriend's approval. His opinions mean a lot to me but I just think he might find the clothes stupid. He's seen me wear wigs before, but never in clothes like this.

Hmm...I don't know. Should I just tell them how much I really love the fashion? So long as I continue to fund it myself, it's not really anyone elses business, right?

And you can call it stupid all you want; everyone's entitled to their own opinions :) And no, the person in the picture isn't me.

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  • ThisIsImpossible
    9 years ago

    If your man's got a problem with it you could easily find a new one that loves it these days bruh, the worst someone can do is say it looks stupid, and other people that enjoy it can respect you at least for that.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      He doesn't have a problem with it because I haven't told him about it/showed him yet, but he's extremely caring and loving for me, I just don't know how he'll react to this.

      And you're right, thank you. Yeah I also just want to try to be an example that gives other people confidence, too; I just need a little more myself I suppose, haha.

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      • urmylovebird
        9 years ago

        No no no you won't look like a fetish just be who you are and if someone makes fun of you don't listen to them.

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  • [Old Memory]
    9 years ago

    You should do what you want regardless of what people think. I'm known to wear strange costumes pretty often and I couldn't give a fuck if I embarrass others, which I know that I sometimes do. Your outfits don't even sound unusual.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      You're right, and thank you. Are you sure they don't sound too weird? :( If you google "sweet lolita" you can see examples (photo didn't work for some reason). It's veyr modest and consists of petticoats and rococo-inspired clothing.

      I guess their opinions just matter to me as I love them, and I wouldn't want them to be embarrassed being seen in public with me.

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      • [Old Memory]
        9 years ago

        It's definitely not weird compared to what I do. If you look at my profile pic I dressed as a devil butterfly police clown and that was on the day I went to jury duty. I dress in similarly ridiculous outfits regularly and couldn't give a fuck what people think. I have fun doing it and that's all that matters.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      I know, you're right. But what about this? I mean it's not exaclty normal but it's a very modest fashion. http://4.bp.blogspot.com/-laofvVShfoM/T7jL_S9YqCI/AAAAAAAAB-Y/va9qkthpDxc/s400/Sweet+Lolita.png

      I'm just afraid they'll hate being seen with me in public.

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      • [Old Memory]
        9 years ago

        Wear what ever you want. I'll post pics of my outfits sometime. They're quite different but I have fun with it. Don't worry about what people think. I don't get why people get embarrassed by those things.

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  • [Old Memory]
    9 years ago

    the beautiful can wear a rag , others wear anything and hope for the best , i'm one of them

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  • Swan_Theif9854
    9 years ago

    whoops got a little excited. *I not *a

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  • Swan_Theif9854
    9 years ago

    Don't care! I wore my goth shit to meet my ex's very Christian grandmother. Shocking! It turns out a nabbed my boyfriend I'm with now because he liked my goth style. And he's my type as well^^

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  • BonusRound
    9 years ago

    Like the popular opinions stated: do what you want :) who cares what people think. Besides Lolita fashion is super cute n pretty and if you dig it and look good,I applaud you :) dressing up is fun and cool when you do it for YOU :)

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  • SometimesNaive
    9 years ago

    Lolita and gothic fashion is really cool and most people like it in my experience. I love it when I see people dressed differently, just wearin whatever they like. Why have awesome clothes people won't see?

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  • shuggy-chan
    9 years ago

    Imma tell u what i tell my friends when they asking/telling me something like they need my approval first. "Be yourself OP, be yo self

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  • urmylovebird
    9 years ago

    You are a good person Anonymous!

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  • Anonymous Post Author
    9 years ago

    Thank you all. You're all very kind.

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  • mountain-man82
    9 years ago

    I dont see anything wrong with that.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      Thank you...But do you think the clothes look silly? And I'm just afraid he'll think it's stupid.

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      • urmylovebird
        9 years ago

        You don't look silly

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        • urmylovebird
          9 years ago

          You look good just where what you want

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          • Anonymous Post Author
            9 years ago

            Thank you, I should. I'm just worried that my clothes will get mistaken for a fetish or something when that's not the case.

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            • mountain-man82
              9 years ago

              I wouldnt care what anyone thought about it. Since its not illegal or immoral, just do what you want.

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