Doesn't see any harm in what he does?its really long but please read i

I love my ex boyfriend(well i just broke up with him yesterday) very much and i believe he loves me too.
I think that its normal to fight, and for sure i am not perfect,i have my own faults but i don't say hurtful things,if i am the one at fault i apologize but i have never not even one said anything disrespectful to my boyfriend.Because i believe in respecting others and let them hold their dignity.My boyfriend on the other hand, he says mean things and does disrespectful things.I used to believe that he really didnt think what he was doing was a big deal but now i cant anymore.For example he will answer me " what is it you wanted to say yesterday that was so important you cant repeat it now?" , or we are having an important conversation on the phone,then like an hour later he tells me" my friends kidnapped me,i am out at the pub with them,what are you up too" ,which i find very disrespectful,if it was just a nonsense convo then yes but something important its just wrong.Girls posting pictures of him holding them on his lap on facebook and tagging him, or pretending to be sleeping on the couch with them,or him going to the movies with another girl and dinner without me knowing and yet i always make him know what am up too and make sure he is comfortable with it. At first he would say that he doesn't see anything wrong in what he does then later he would come to me apologizing but how can he not see that that behaviour is wrong?I don't blame the girls i blame him,he should have refused,yes i have to give him points he didnt hide it for me when i asked him who he went to the movies with but he should have told me first. The last fight we had, he posted my pic on his facebook for few hours on my birthday then took it off,i was upset that he did that since so far i've had 3 pictures of him and each has stayed for at least a week as my profile,thats when he said that i was too annoying and he did it to make it happy, that i was ungrateful,that i should be happy he put it there in the first place and i could get mad all i want he wouldn't care.But i have had his pictures for the past year and it was his first time to have my picture.".I would never answer someone like that,its inconsiderate of someone's else feelings.Don't get me wrong i am not saying he cant have female friends because thats would be wrong i do have more male friends than female myself but i know where to draw the line and i guess he doesn't. I told him before that i dont like how he talks to me, and yesterday i asked him if i deserve to be talked to the way he did then he answered not everday but you got me mad and you were being annoying and i had to tell you that,in other words at that particular moment i deserved it. Then i told him that i was ending the relationship,he just said " okay". Sometimes i think that i was too lenient with him.Do you think that i overreacted?Ps we are attending different colleges right now.