Does this make me a stalker?

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I go on ex's social network sites (facebook myspace) a lot and check out their profiles. I have even gone so far as to create multiple accounts so I can be in different networks and check them out like that. I dont do anything bad or even act on it: i just look at their profiles, status updates, pics, wall-posts and so find out about them. I am just curious and I dont send them emails based on it or contact them at all. Does that make me a stalker? I read all these definitions about stalkers and they say that they turn violent and can cause physical harm but i would never dream of doing that - it is more like...I miss them or so and so I look at their profiles.

So, does that make me a stalker?

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  • TripleN
    15 years ago

    They put themselves on facebook.

    Its fair game I suppose.

    As long as your not showing up a their homes at 3:30am armed with a steak knife and a jar of Vicks vapor rub you should be alright.

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  • IkeBroflovski
    15 years ago

    Facebook stalking is very common.

    Anyone registered there that claims they haven't peeked at profiles of exes etc are liars.

    As long as your not reading their profile on your smartphone, whilst sitting in the bushes outside their house. With you know, your pants down...

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    • teehee
      15 years ago

      lol! sorry that was funny.

      but being serious, i'v done it too.. but on my normal account and looked at exes pics and female friends and what he's said to them but only to see if he's still the same..

      its healthy to be inquisitive!

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  • [Old Memory]
    15 years ago

    no not stalker, why cant you remain friends and talk to them normally. Advice get a hobby or a new love interest.

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  • probablyok
    12 years ago

    You sound really bored. Meet new people- absolutely anyone. Take up sailing or rugby or rambling or a language class or anything that involves social interaction away from a computer.

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  • --A
    13 years ago

    darling, darling..

    MOVE ON.

    --A xoxo

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    I do that too, but I good thing to do is find something else to do because when you do that often you miss him more etc..
    I have been through it, it sucks.

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  • tampabayallstar
    14 years ago

    I like the way I see all these sanctomonious a-holes judging the OP. Lets face it folks , most of us do exactly what the OP does. It is called being 'human'. Technology has made it easy and convenient. Granted we might have different subtle differences the way we do it, nevertheless , most of us do. By the way, I have no problem meeting women and in fact most women I end up with , contact me first. Please stop judging the OP for being human.

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  • IveGotBallsOfSteal
    14 years ago

    It's called lurking
    It's the new stalking
    somehow, totally socially acceptable.

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    • tampabayallstar
      14 years ago

      If folks put this out there , its fair game. I do have one caveat. If someone pays one of these online investigators for info, then it goes beyond normal internet activity.

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    • tampabayallstar
      14 years ago

      Agreed!

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    • Moonlighting
      14 years ago

      I am the original poster and i must say that it actually is not normal guys. Constantly checking up on others doesnt allow you to live a normal life or move on. I mean if they dont wanna talk to you or if the relationship/friendship didnt work and you guys are no longer hanging out or talking, there is a reason for that right? And you gotta move on. Trying to force it like that aint gonna work.

      By sticking around and constantly checking on their lives, and what they do, where they went, who they met etc, you are stuck - like a rat in a trap or a hamster in its wheel.

      When I look back at the time where there were no such peer websites, I really miss them, in the sense that I could move on easier. I didnt have this temptation of being able to look at their profiles and read their wall posts and follow each activity and then either compare or wonder why I aint part of it. It is unhealthy.

      Being stuck on people who dont care about you, dont appreciate you and dont enjoy you in their lives, only makes you uglier and more bitter.

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  • paaaandora
    14 years ago

    You're normal. A lot of people do the same on social networking sites. I've done the same, just looking at exes profiles and such but I don't miss them, just curious about how they're doing. The interwebs is addicting.

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  • toodleoo
    14 years ago

    Perfectly normal. You can rest easy tonight.

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  • D0llick
    14 years ago

    I think its normal. I feel the same way too, sometimes.

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  • bobbita
    14 years ago

    kinda creepy, but i look at myspaces too. I havent gone as far to create fake accounts but i have thought about it many times. I actually tried but got too lazy to carry on. not to weird tho.

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  • Bisjac
    14 years ago

    No, that doesn't make you a stalker lol. I used to do that with my ex because I missed her. But you'll get over it, just find another bf/gf.

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  • roadrunnerxo
    14 years ago

    I think this is very normal. I mean, I think knowing their passwords and looking that way is an invasion of privacy, but if your just looking at their page, that's fine, that's what the pages are their for I think.

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  • CalvinNHobbes
    14 years ago

    If you are not trying to harm them or interfere with their life, you are probably just upset because you don't know what you did wrong that made them leave you. I bet you are too posessive or move too fast. If you can't talk to them in person, keep a good photo of them and leave them alone entirely. If you can reconcile with them to be platonic friends, in person, do that, but if they would freak out if they saw you in person, leave them alone!
    You should go to councilling or visit with some friends who are successful in relationships. Find out what you are doing wrong, whether its you or the girls you pick. Good luck.

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  • FryKid
    14 years ago

    I think it's normal. I think you're just curious.

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  • pubeknight
    14 years ago

    I do that too!!

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  • shann311
    15 years ago

    I totally use to do it....I thinks it normaal human nature.

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  • ShiraSenju
    15 years ago

    No, your not a stalker. A stalker is like my lab partner at college he's freaking me out. He wants to go out with me. He puts his arms around my waist, calls me baby, calls me a lot and even though I already told him Im not interested in him, he insists.

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  • cjwright79
    15 years ago

    You're only a stalker if you make someone feel uncomfortable. All these things you do just mean you really care about the person, which is good!

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  • Baitgator
    15 years ago

    Hell, I do it too, it's not a huge deal. Just like Ike said up there, as long as you aren't in the bushes it's normal.

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  • spyderr
    15 years ago

    creep yes, stalker no ;)

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  • snootyfox
    15 years ago

    I do it too on myspace... just found out my ex had a baby with his new wife. Which is cool,

    My other ex keeps his on private so I cant see pictures of our son, cuase he's a douche.

    I wish people could get along after a break up so this sort of thing would happen.

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  • Renly808
    15 years ago

    No, this makes you nosy. Find a hobby.

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  • [Old Memory]
    15 years ago

    your normal. but try not to be so pathetic, and you'll do great. good luck to you.

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  • shadow1004
    15 years ago

    no that does not makes you a stalker just makes you look like a person who does not work or does anything in life...

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  • gono666
    15 years ago

    this just makes you a person with too much time in your hands, do something more productive.

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  • YOURaFREAK
    14 years ago

    The most fucked up part about this story is when you said you dream about their dicks!!

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