Does this happen when you're old?

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So I am in my early 30's & I can say that I don't have any friends. Not "true" friends anyway. Is this just normal for my age group because we are now in relationships ~ married or not~ and have children and are busy or is it me? I have friends of convience. Their convience. I can not think of one friend that I can call and go shopping with or get a pedi with because we dont have that scale of friendship. I have point blank ask them if its me and if its something i can work on and all have told me NO. Obvioulsy they cant be truthful and it kills me that they cant. I am a very truthful person (and people dont like truth even as much as they think they do) & so Ive considered that to be the issue. All still respond NO. I am at my wit's end. I would love help, even something physological.
thank you in advance!

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  • mtnw
    14 years ago

    if you are in your 30s and have the extra time and money for shopping and a pedi, then i think you are an exception. when my spouse and i were in our 30s, we each worked 40 to 50 hours a week, plus we both were in school at night. in addition to that, we had a mortgage, two car payments and two kids. any spare time and money went towards the kids, housework, grocery shopping, vehicle maintenance, home maintenance, laundry, classwork study and yard work.

    if your friends are homeowners with kids, then money and time are tight. if you don't have these types of responsibilities, maybe you should look for friends with situations that are similar to yours.

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  • innereye
    13 years ago

    I must ask that you not hold against me my take on this subject. I think people without friends have no dedication to life. No area of perfection where they can gain confidence. Without confidence what gives a person the right to feel good about themselves? People surround themselves with success if for no other reason than to maybe be lucky enough to have some of it rub off. People also like to be around people who listen more than they talk. (We have two ears and one mouth we are suppose to use them proportionately)But, if dedication to setting the goal of getting confidence and achieving it, will only come if one is proud of something. Since nothing is free and you get out of life what you put into it, it seems to me that the work ethic to be the best at something is lacking somewhat. For any-ones life to have friends, sacrifices must be made, time, energy and what ends up becoming money absolutely must be ready to be shared with friends. Sharing comes from a need to give, while being selfish the result of lacking self esteem. I love quoting any and everyone, that being said Nike says "just do it" and I had a boss that use to say "excuses are for a$$holes" If you have an excuse you do not have dedication and probably the determination to changing it. Can I recommend going to the library and reading a few books about building self esteem?

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    • dude_Jones
      11 years ago

      friends->dedication->perfection->confidence->feel good->success->rub off->dedication->goal->work ethic->sacrifices->sharing->determination->libraries->self-esteem.

      Wow man, random walk of the most capricious kind.

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  • LongfellowDeeds.
    13 years ago

    i'm 22 and I've only got 1 friend. but instead of pedi's or shopping we grab a 24, and race to drink the most beers. Unfortunatly I might have only won once. But I steal his money when he passes out each time so it's like he basicly pays for the beer everytime and forgets what he spent it on. Priceless.

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  • Abtanazahx
    13 years ago

    maybe it's because you keep asking them if they like you or not. People don't want to hang out with someone who is insecure and constantly questioning their own self worth and asking others opinions on the subject.

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  • donttrust44
    14 years ago

    Actually I am a single mom of 1(and the true meaning of single...I dont share him with the donor) and all of my friends do also have families.

    I make pretty good money for being in my early 30's and have since I was 22 so I am lucky in that aspect. I do have car payment, mortgage, utilities, groceries,etc just like everyone else. I also am busy running my kiddo around for his after school sports, however you make time for friends, atleast on an occasion.

    I am by no means implying that I want or expect my friends to be able to constantly get together, but some girl time would be nice occasionly. I dont even talk to them on the phone.

    I am just going to assume that its part of our lifes at this point. Busy with home life and work.

    Thanks for your imput though....

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