Does the "nice guy" want me or am i just the only taker?

I know a lot of guys like this, and I have to be honest, I think a lot of them do take what they're offered, BUT no one (guy or not) would settle for someone they weren't at least somewhat attracted to, or someone whose character they didn't mesh with. I can't really offer any specific advice here because I don't know either of you personally.

He seems to have some rather "undesirable" traits, such as geeky obsessions and an introverted personality, but that doesn't mean he's a total dork in every way. You said he's good looking. He sounds like a smart and interesting/unique guy. He doesn't exactly sound like he's your typical asocial, misanthropic, borderline psychotic freak, which is how a lot of nerds are perceived. Plus, like you said, he seems like a "good" guy, and those are hard to find, ESPECIALLY among nerds. Most hardcore nerds are incredibly defensive, argumentative, dismissive, and IMPOSSIBLE to get along with. So you might be surprised, he could be attracting more female attention than you think.

The bottomline is, he obviously wants to be with you, and if you like him back, that's all that matters. Until you find evidence pointing to the contrary, just go with the assumption that he wants YOU and no one else.

I think guys like your guy are really fascinating tbh. They have all the good traits of the nerd: the eclectic tastes, the passion for an alternative lifestyle, the individuality, and following the beat of their own drums, but they're still good, well-adjusted human beings in every other respect. I think guys AND girls like this make terrific friends. You never know what to expect with them, and I can take an interest in their interests just because of how passionate they are about them. I'm like the male "Penny" from Big Bang Theory sometimes among my nerdier friends.

I'd take a nerdy partner over a shallow, materialistic and superficial partner anyday. Like you, I'm a bit of a nerd in some ways too, so I can partially relate to them/understand them. I've had similar concerns to yours before, but about my friends. I'd wonder, are they only friends with me because no one else would be their friend? I've come to realize, they'd never have stayed friends with me if they didn't find me intelligent, interesting, kind, and funny. I'm glad I met them because I feel more energized around them, and we do the (admittedly) weirdest, but most fun/interesting stuff together. With my more "normal" friends, all we do is sit around and maybe watch a movie or go for a walk.

I'm also a bit envious, because I've always wanted to know a cosplayer IRL. I find it fascinating how they can put together those elaborate costumes. As it stands, I'd never be caught dead in one of those in public, but that's my issue, and I hope I can get over that someday.

He wants you, I'm just like him. Minus the not good with the ladies thing. But hearing your thoughts. . . you sure he doesn't deserve better? Only option? Seriously? Seems to me like your an extrovert...and it seems to me like your projecting your own thoughts onto him. People are different, and you fit into the closed-minded category. It really wouldn't hurt you to learn something. If I were him I would get with you, but I'd probably end up dumping you later because of your demeanor. Stop stereotyping people out of fear, live a little. There is my two cents.

He's clearly taking what's on offer. Too introverted to go out and find a woman, he's happy to take whatever washes up on his shore. At 25 he does not need to be even remotely attracted or otherwise interested in you, he will gladly put his dick into anything that will let him. And "let" is the key here, he's too afraid to try. Do you really want or need someone like that in your life? I hope not, his kind shouldn't be offered breeding opportunities.