Does she want to be with me?

Hi im 18 years old my girlfriend is 19 and weve been living together for about 5 months now. We have a son together which we both love very much, but lately weve been fighting alot. she always wants things her way and while i do try my best to agree it gets pretty damn hard to mostly do things her way. you see when ever we fight every now and then shell say a comment like "oh then why dont you leave" or "i dont need you anyways" it makes me very sad i love her to death but she only sees her point of view is it normal to say these types of comments to someone you love......oh were engaged too.

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  • mulanmalice

    It gets better within time. I used to say the same thing to my man.... but now I am confident to say that we are both in it for the long run. It has nothing to do with you at all, it has everything to do with her insecurities. Just let her know each day how much you love her and don't just say it. Do things for her that show it.

    If you have already passed that stage where you guys are all googly eyes over eachother and the arguing over pointless things have started, you both are going to have to toughen up and get through those issues. Seeing as though you both haven't lived with eachother before, being together 24/7 or even for a few hours in the house can be boring, so go out, have fun and do new things to keep the relationship alive.

    This helped my relationship alot. and maybe you can have someone baby sit your son for a few hours so you guys can have date night. I am sure that she is buggin' because she feels she is not hot anymore to you since she had your baby boy. Make her feel as sexy as the day you met her. Fuck the shit out of that pussy man!!!

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  • oquenbe

    thanks to all for the input......our relationship is closer then ever now

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  • DES

    Leave her you can do better don't you belive you are wroth it

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  • babylove20

    hey first of all im a female and I do understand her point of view.us women are so emotional and when we hear insults,complaints,etc from our bfs we feel not respected and unappreciated.so we get out of are way and say the worst hurtful things to you so that you could feel bad too.and just know this women could be more independent than guys,and yes we could live without men.
    but the things we say we mostly don't mean it we say it out of anger and regret it mostly. just give her space after any fight and do apologies regardless your fault or not.its how us women work lol sowwie

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  • crazyman143

    I agree that you need to calm down and discuss whatever is on yours and her minds, and whether she is serious about you leaving. Obviously you should both do whatever it takes to keep your relationship strong, and explain that to her. Compromise is good, and it's good that you are compromising when you can to make her happy, but it's also a two way street and you should make that clear. Make it clear that you love her, and will do everything you can to better your relationship, but tell her that you cant do it by yourself, and that you need her input and cooperation in as well.
    In short, I'd say that a little communication could go a long way, rather than the two of you trying to decode eachother's hints. I pray that your relationship will blossom into a long and fruitful marriage. :)

    God Bless

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  • qwertyu

    Get out while you can your only 19. Going out with the same girl at your age is like eating hamburger every night!! To her your hamburger I'm pretty sure she wants something different.

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  • scarfface

    run away while you're at baby number 1 if she doesn't change fast. you don't wanna be fucked in the head your whole freaking life.

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  • anabolic19

    well it is normal to say things like that in the heat of an arguement but it generally means they're thinking about leaving and because you two are arguing she loses control and blurts out her thoughts do one of two things next time your arguing
    1. when she says it go quiet sit down and say softly "is that what you really think?" or " do you really want me to leave"
    2. just walk out go for a walk and stay away for a few hours if she loves you still she'll ring you and try to get in contact with you after she calms down like 2 - 3 hours later because she'll start to worry
    if theres no call theres no love
    just remember to stay away long enough for her to worry bout 4 hours to be sure

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    • oquenbe

      thanks usually i do go for a walk or stay out of her way but im usually the one to call her to see if shes alright........once the fighting is done shes ok to be around but after a little bit of time it repeats itself

      maybe its just me but i want to add that if i dont go to her and do something like hug or kiss her she wont do it to me or very rarely

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