Does our love have a chance? he, indian, 12 years younger, me, white.

My man was born and raised in India and pursued me like crazy even though I refused his advances and laughed them off for a while because, obviously, he seems far too young for me. He is tall, broad shouldered and very good looking, an alpha male in every sense. I was shocked that he would choose me because men like that tend to go after younger models as trophy wives, I assumed. I've never had much dealings with Indian men in the past anyway and never especially went out searching for one. Especially so much younger. He found me and just would not give up trying haha :) I honestly thought it was just a young hot lust talking and his perceptions of 'white women being easy and wild in bed' sort of thing, as I'm blonde and busty (naturally) and an ex-professional dancer so very fit and look younger, but still... He knew from the start about my age and the fact that I was divorced, with 2 children and he still didn't care. I am aware of the cultural expectation for him to marry someone not only from his country but also closer to his age. But his response was that his parents were very broad minded and modern and would just want him to be happy. He's been nothing but good to me, very attentive, respectful, loving, we share the same sense of humour and have much in common. I originally come from Russia so I'm traditional and family-oriented but of course, having lived in the West for over 20 years I'm now also very European and assertive as a woman in my outlook i.e. I have my own career and believe men and women are of equal value and one should not be subservient to the other. His English is excellent, he is well-read, has been privately educated, very intelligent and mature for his age, he is not after any visa as he has a very good job and is from a stable middle class family. He's told me that he wants to spend the rest of his life with me and have a family, if I want to, or not - that's my choice. He says that he's happy for me to either live with him in India or he will come to my country for good or we can move somewhere else together as per our choice. We are compatible on so many levels and it feels like best friends, but we are also in tune as lovers. It seems too good to be true but it really feels like that. He says he doesn't care about him being with someone older because it's always been his preference (although he's never actually dated one before me). I love him dearly but I could not help but Google for the answer to what I've been told a few times already, that Indian men never or seldom marry outside their race. I am not after marriage per se as I just want to be with him for as long as we are happy but I do hope it's for life. He keeps reassuring me and I believe him but I would like to hear from others in similar/ the same situation as me and what their experiences were/are and what they've learnt from them. All the best and thank you in advance.

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Comments ( 11 )
  • SweetandTenderHooligan

    MARRY HIM

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  • Go for it! Indian men are great.

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  • jesusj

    Is he at all Mexican? Because if he is then I think you should. Us Mexicans always marry people far younger or older than ourselves.

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  • drows

    i look down upon ^

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  • MrsEdGein

    Too long. Didn't read.

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  • luckynj

    Keep going the way it is going for some more years. If he still stays with you and your kids are friendlier with him then you can decide it on merit. This way your fear of age difference will go away too. It is not 100% true that Indian does not marry out of their race. For last so may years they keep marrying while ladies.
    Wish You good luck.
    Luckynj

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  • randomjelly

    Honey...go for it! If it ends it won't be the end of the world but you will have had some great moments!

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  • marnen

    Actuly people from India are white, exept some etnic grups from south

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  • Buhhhrito

    What the hell are you trying to say? Seriously, I don't even see a question here, just a story about how amazing the guy is, and how hot you supposedly are.

    Maybe if your shortened your "question" you'd get more responses.

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  • Noonesperfect

    LOL he is after british citizenship not visa.

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  • mr.fartsmeller69

    go for it but i will look down apon you for doing it

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