Does my ex deserve an in-person "goodbye"?

Okay so a little backstory, i dated this guy for a few months and before we started dating i probably wasnt the best candidate for him because i had been talking to other guys besides him, but the only reason i did that was because i had no idea he wanted more than a friendship (he never stopped holding this against me even though i changed and was only with him for the entire duration of our relationship). we got into many arguments after he found this out and we split ways for about a month but ended up talking again and started dating. we dated for about a month or two and one night he got me drunk and he ended up having sex with me while i was clearly incoherent and i had even said "i dont even know what's happening".. and then later on we slowly began being more sexual but after that one night i was never very comfortable for the next couple of times we did it. i ended up telling him after a while that i just didnt want to have sex because i wasnt comfortable with by sexuality and it wasnt something i wanted our relationship to revolve around.
so this turns into a 9 hour argument (over text) which ultimately came down to his stance being "i cant be in this relationship if you dont want to have sex" because he "needs it" and so i said "i cant give you what you need" and he left me. then he tried crawling back to me but i told him my position still stands and i'm not changing it and so after, he basically sends this long message accusing me of being with another guy in my own apartment complex for months (which i still have no idea who it is or how he came to that conclusion) and he also tells me that he has been cheating on me for months and he's moving away with her, and he says that he hadnt felt anything for me for months and i was "just something fun to do or hang out with" and basically says i'm a shit person and i should kill myself, then blocks me on everything so i cant respond.. but now that i'm visiting his town (where i used to live) to see my sister for her birthday, he posted on all his social media so i can see for me to call him or text him so that i can say goodbye in person "as friends". this makes no sense to me because he told me all that fucked up shit when i had done nothing wrong except just not want to have sex anymore until i was ready.. and i dont think he deserves a goodbye in person for what he said to me and how he made me feel, but what do u guys think? i have one day to decide before i drive back home and he moves away in a month.

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Comments ( 18 )
  • BlindSpot

    Tell that asshole to go die and fuck off from your life once and for all! Urgh! Men like this disgust me! He doesn't want to 'say goodbye as friends.' Don't believe a thing this low life says. It's probably just another booty call.

    I've heard the same story before. Trust me, you won't get any closure from the same guy who put you into that hell hole he called a relationship. He is an insecure bastard who wants to keep abusing you because now he has no one else who will take his fucking shit.

    He has disrespected you but he will never take away your dignity. I'm glad you had the sense and courage to stand up to him and explain your feelings but obsessive jerks like these will never learn. Don't waste your time.

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    • I ran out of thumbs up but ๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿผ Well said.

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  • LornaMae

    Don't. He doesn't deserve the satisfaction.

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  • RoseIsabella

    That piece of shit doesn't deserve a damn thing except maybe a framed picture of rapist Bill Cosby to keep on his bedside table. He's an awful person! Block him on all media, and go no contact! Now if you'll excuse me I have to flush something that is much less shitty than him despite it being actual poo.

    Please know, and remember that you don't owe his shitty, sorry ass a damn thang, girl!
    *flush*

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  • My votes to stay away from him for good he donโ€™t deserve shit.

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    • RoseIsabella

      ... and he is a piece of shit! ๐Ÿ™‚

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      • Even more so than the one you just flushed ๐Ÿ™‚

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        • RoseIsabella

          Sometimes people are so shitty that that they are shittier than actual poo. ๐Ÿ˜Ž

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          • No doubt about that!

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  • SwickDinging

    He is mental. Stay away from him. Call the police if he tries to contact you again

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  • IrishPotato

    Eh. Why bother?

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  • hungDaddy

    Nah, don't even give him a second of your time. My recent breakup was a fraction of the tomfuckery this is, and I only gave her some snotty texts. He doesn't deserve closure, and IMO, you shouldn't waste any of your energy doing that for him. Live YOUR best life sis.

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