Does it sound like my friend likes me in more than a friend way?

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I recently (3 months) moved in at a boarding school and I made a best friend already. We hang out and we have this joke going on that we're married and we always pretend to be a couple. We have stuff in common like that we both like anime, and we have similar opinions and sense of humor.
I've kind of suspected that she was bi. She prefers yuri (anime with lesbians), tells me i'm pretty all the time, doesn't talk about guys, and is pretty cuddly with me. But all that together doesn't mean shes bi, and it would be a huge assumption to make over little things like that.
Today was kind of weird though.
she asked me "Have you ever dated a girl before?"
I said no
she asked, "Would you ever date a girl?"
I said I'm not sure, because who knows, maybe I could like a girl sexually. I don't have enough experience in the relationship department to be very sure, but I know I'm attracted to guys.
After that (we were lying on my bed in dorm, watching anime) she asked me to cuddle her. I sat back so she could lie up top of me kind of. But I'm kind of shy and have intimacy issues, so I didn't do what she had in mind.
Of course, to say shes into girls is a huge assumption, and it would be unfathomable that she would have crush on me (I know how do my make up and I try to dress nice, but i'm atleast 50 or 60 pounds overweight). For all I know, she could suspect that I was into girls and that was why she asked. Or the most likely option, shes straight, doesnt think of me that way and was just asking.
What do you think?

She's straight and she was probably just asking 0
She might be a little bi-curious but probably doesn't have a crush 1
She's night be a little bi-curious and might have a crush on you 8
She sounds like she suspects that you're into girls 1
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  • evil_witch
    12 years ago

    crap. Well it turns out she is bi, has dated a girl before, and has a crush on me. Craaaaaaaaaaap. What do i do now???

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  • taciturn
    12 years ago

    No one can tell you what she was thinking except her.

    It may be a little too forward to ask if she's into you (and it may lead to more misunderstandings), but try asking if she's interested in women.

    Also, could you see yourself being interested in her? It sounds like you aren't exactly opposed to the idea.

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    • evil_witch
      12 years ago

      I know, I guess I just need to talk to someone about it and get an opinion on whether I'm being too suspicious or not.
      I suppose I will ask if she's into women, but maybe in a week or two. If I ask right away, she'll think I'm asking because she thinks she makes me uncorfortable.
      As for the idea of having a relationship with a woman, I'm not sure I could do it. I am more comfortable with women, but I'm not sure if I'd like to have sex with one. - am lonely, and I don't want to hurt her feelings. If she were into me, I don't know what I'd be supposed to do. I'd want to like women and like her that way to make her happy, but if I'm just vanilla straight, I don't think I could force myself to change my sexual preferences.
      If she were gay, I'd have no problem with it at all. I mean, I guess I would have to make different jokes. I have several gay and bi friends, and it makes no difference to me.
      I think everything would be fine, the worst case senario would be that she likes me, in which case I wouldn't know what to do, but I'm getting really ahead of myself. I doubt that's the case

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      • taciturn
        12 years ago

        Yeah, that's normal. I'm not trying to push you to do anything you don't want to do, but I know I'm straight because I've made out with men (even men I found handsome) and it did absolutely nothing for me. I just didn't feel it like I do with women. And on the other hand, I was recently talking to a bi female friend of mine, who felt exactly like you until she tried things with women, and realized that she liked it.

        But yeah, again, don't do anything you're not comfortable with. And we're definitely getting ahead of ourselves here. Just ask her if she's into girls.

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