Does it matter what gender flirts or has feelings for your bf/gf?

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It seems guys are more jealous of other guys hitting or just plain talking/be friending their gf than if it were a lesbian or bi sexual girl that's talking to your partner. Am I right and why is that ? I recently found out my friend was communicating with an old guy friend and her bf didn't like it all! I was kinda pissed off because I was close with her, (I'm a girl), and it seems he didn't care how close we were. We hugged heaps in front of him and she told me we had a connection. I had feelings for her and he once told us to pash when he was drunk but we didn't. He should have been envious of what we had or me because we were much cosier than any one else, especially that guy mate who she would talk to every now and then.

To me , it doesn't matter on gender, I get jealous anyway 12
Im a guy and only mind if its another guy- I'll comment why 5
I'm a guy and it only matters if he or she is actually flirting 6
Other 4
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  • Holzman_67
    8 years ago

    I just don't get jealous its a selfish emotion you never own anyone it's their choice to be with you and if they're going to be unfaithful then they're not for you anyway.

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    • maddoxyay
      8 years ago

      if you dont get jealous its a way of showing you dont care tbh. Everyone should get jealous, its unhealthy not to be

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      • Holzman_67
        8 years ago

        No you can still care without jealousy. It's just about being non possessive and understanding that you don't own anyone. That doesn't exclude caring for them.

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  • thegypsysailorswifesleftfoot
    8 years ago

    From a guys POV, guys usually see other guys flirting with their GF as a threat to their relationship. (i'm sure there are also those guys who don't )

    Whereas when a woman is flirting with their GF the guy's immediate thought bubble is something like, "Mmmm... How can I swing this into a threesome?"

    It happened one night I was out with GF at a pub and a slightly drunk girl was flirting with my GF. Within a minute or two they were kissing passionately. When they stopped kissing my GF smiled, looked at me and pushed the other girl towards me, then I started kissing the drunk girl. It was kinda hot. I didn't feel threatened by the girl flirting and kissing my GF at all.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      8 years ago

      But another girl could still be a threat to someone's relationship! What if the guys gf is bi or even started falling for a girl. Then she left his ass to ride off into the sunset with the girl. I'm just saying, it could happen, so I would think they'd be more careful.

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      • maddoxyay
        8 years ago

        not like theyre gonna ===>0 if you get my drift. Some guys only care about physical stuff not emotional

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          8 years ago

          Then they may as well not be in a relationship and go find a stripper down the road if they only care about physical.

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  • RainbowFlash
    8 years ago

    Insecure guys will hate it more if a guy talks to "their girl" because the guys are competition. Women offer something they don't. In other words, they are being small minded idiots.

    I don't care who my partner talks to, I trust her. If I thought she would cheat, I wouldn't be with her. If she cheated, I would dump her.

    Remember people, it takes two to cheat. If your partner is a decent person, they won't cheat on you. If they cannot be trusted then you have problems that run deeper than the risk of infidelity.

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  • maddoxyay
    8 years ago

    lol i regret not voting for the first one, but i get jealous only when she talks to him/her in front of me and if they dont like me and they hug. I think a relationship should be 110% emotionally attached, physically attached, mentally attached, and psychologically attached to just each other. If its not like that, i mean you honestly can live without each other and don't have to be married. If i were to touchy with any gender and want their attention n affection then i think thats cheating. Eyes on the prize is my saying. But some guys just dont see another girl as a threat and thats just cuz theyre not use to bi-sexuals or lesbians. You shouldn't be attached to someone like that anyway if they're in a relationship. It's disrespectful to the girl/boy cuz they are in a relationship and want to be dedicated to that person. It's basically calling them a hoe.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      8 years ago

      Sometimes you can't help who you develop strong feelings for. Just because I had feelings for her and she may have had some there for me in the past, doesn't make someone a hoe .
      In this case he was quite knowledgeable of lezies and/or bi sexuals , he actually seems a bit of a pervert. He's the one that told us to pash. Just seems odd that a guy would enjoy the idea of that considering that feelings are more fluid these days. Then again, he is a fukd up guy.

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