Does it get any better?!

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I know this might be a repeated question, and maybe sounds like a cliche..but I really feel this need to rant! I've been in love with the same person for over than 2 years now. He doesn't see me at all and kinda broke my heart about 4 times!! I literally feel I can't breathe! I tried to meet new people but failed in liking anyone..I just don't seem to like anyone but him! I have no idea why. I have been trying to get over him for a year and half with no success whatsoever! Like I said, he just keep breaking my heart. Now he's with someone else! I have all these pathetic, strong feelings inside, I wish I can let them out, but I know I can't and they suffocate me! I've been crying myself to sleep almost every night for I don't know how long. I feel real physical pain in my chest when I think about him. I really do love him :( It's true. I'm not a teenager, am in my late 20s! I used to be a smart, sophisticated, interesting and fun loving person. I forgot everything I used to like and almost who I am. And I just can't find myself back! It sucks, it really really sucks! I can't even express how I feel! It's like nothing matters anymore..like everything is black..am really losing interest in everything around me and can't drag myself back to reality. Does it get better? Is this normal? Am I ever gonna fall in love with someone else?

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  • Caryopteris
    10 years ago

    I am sorry that you didn't have an opportunity to spend a couple of years with this person to go through the normal cycle of feelings. If you had been allowed to exclusively date this person and have their full attention, the initial bloom of excitement would be fading about now as you learned about the real person and could see their failures as well as their strengths. It is perfectly normal to have these feelings but you can talk yourself out of being so obsessed by looking for things that are not attractive about him. You don't want to be hateful, but just to be able to hold him at arm's length and see that he isn't the one for you and you aren't the one for him, as delicious as it felt for a while.

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  • StarTeddy
    10 years ago

    You sound like you have symptoms of depression--I really suggest you consider therapy, it seems like the only way things would get better for you.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      10 years ago

      I hope I can just get better without having to go through therapy..the problem is I just don't know how to feel better..does everyone go through the same thing with heartbreak or am I being extremist I don't know..life can really be so tough at sometimes ;(

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      • StarTeddy
        10 years ago

        It happens that you might feel depressed after heartbreak and it's normal to also not know what to do...but if you feel so lost, there really is not much you can do without help. It's an emotional wound and if you don't take care of it, it's not going to heal. I really suggest you try therapy, but if you REALLY can't for some reason you could try to get a self-help book, preferably one with good reviews. It could be sort of like a compromise...

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  • disthing
    10 years ago

    It gets better if you make it get better.

    It's all a combination of learning to be optimistic, and taking control of your life by making decisions - changing what you can to improve your situation.

    Everybody feels at a loss sometimes. Everybody gets down - some more than others. Don't wait for someone else to pull you up.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      10 years ago

      Thank you, that's the best advice I got...will try to pull myself up ;(

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  • [Old Memory]
    10 years ago

    You write like you are mental, are you mental? If so, press one. If not, blow your nose because that's what they did sometimes in the old days if they were upset by stuff like that. They would catch these rodent things with sticks and tell them to shove off. It's always the first person who eats them that gets grumpy about it though, so even if you do love him you can't be together because they will nash at you with their teeth. And they make little squeaky noises that are cute but they're actually just squeaking about eating your foot off while you poke in their holes to get them to come out.

    And their teeth are like needles so watch out for any near the holes you check, because I heard that if you slip over they come out of the holes in the ground but if you are standing up they just stay in their holes.

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  • thegypsysailor
    10 years ago

    I don't think it's about love any more. You ego is bruised and perhaps your confidence is a bit worn. But most likely you are punishing yourself. After a year you should be able to act a little more like an adult and not some 13 year old child.
    If you keep seeing him, stalking him perhaps, you are just fucking up your own life, because he obviously doesn't give a shit about you. Maybe he's actually enjoying your pain, did you ever think of that?
    Time to grow up and get on with your life. That guy is GONE.

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  • noid
    10 years ago

    Move away?

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  • squeallikeasacofpigs
    10 years ago

    Holy fucking shit is this what goes on inside the mind of a woman!?JEEZUS!

    My best advise is to stop being so bloody melodramatic, pull yourself together and get on with it woman!

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  • Grapist
    10 years ago

    Gay people think so. But their wrong

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    • thegypsysailor
      10 years ago

      they're, not their.
      Please, isn't this the shit you were supposed to learn in third grade?
      Shouldn't you want to hide your ignorance, not flaunt it?
      You make yourself look like such an ignorant fool.

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