Does he only want sex?

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Hey everyone!

So there's this guy I've been talking to recently. We never met. We do go to the same University though. He's two years older than I am, which is clearly not that bad in my opinion. So yeah, we've text messaged a lot in the last few days and he seem to only talk about sex and how hot he finds me. He also stated that ''he likes to keep his head in the game''. Which lead me to believe that he only wants to get in my pants and nothing else. But then, he also talks about how sex is meaningful and needs to happen between two persons that care about each other. This is leading me to another point of view. And it's mixing me up. Sometimes I feel as if he's looking for something serious, while on the other hand I also feel like he only wants sex and that I'd be crazy to trust him.

What do you think? Should I meet him up (in a public place) and see?

Thanks for your responses!

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  • girly62
    11 years ago

    As you said he wants you for sex only. Stay away. Even if you got into a serious relationship with him which i believe he wont even dare getting into, he'll probably cheat on you with others. Its not worth it.

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  • Avant-Garde
    11 years ago

    I think he just wants you for sex. He might be using the "sex is meaningful" part as a way to make you want to have sex with him. I could be wrong, but that is just the kind of vibe I'm getting.

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  • Pseodonihm
    9 years ago

    If you never met him, how did you start texting each other?

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  • mystery7
    9 years ago

    He does not respect you. He just wants to have sex with you. He hasn't even met you and he's talking about sex with you while using the ruse that 'sex is meaningful'.

    You will just be another sexual conquest for him and he will probably even brag about it to his mates.

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  • ShutX
    9 years ago

    It is true that sex should happen between two people that love each other, but nobody else in the world is going to start off a relationship with that line of reasoning. He probably only wants sex and it's maybe good that you haven't met him yet. Plus, maybe like 10% of women are ever satisfied during sex, something like that, so it's honestly not worth it.

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  • White_Chocolate
    9 years ago

    Guys only say that when they really want to have sex but don't want you to think that is all the want (when that's exactly all they want) but I say go meet him and just see what happens I don't know I might be wrong.

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  • Anonymous Post Author
    11 years ago

    So the majority thinks he does not only want sex. I'll have to meet him up and see according to his behaviors!

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  • Anonymous Post Author
    11 years ago

    Yeah you're all probably right... But recently I told him to stop talking about it and he stopped. Never mentioned it again. So maybe was it only a phase?

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  • lizieralizard
    11 years ago

    he wants sex. otherwise he wouldnt b talking about it. when u want pizza, thats what u talk about right? sure, u might throw in some crap about how u know pizza isnt good 4 u all the time but u still seek it out and enjoy it do u not?

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  • Anonymous Post Author
    11 years ago

    Thanks everyone! I'll meet him at a coffee place and I'll go straight up there. I guess is behaviors are gonna tell me way more than his text messages...

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  • JustATeen
    11 years ago

    LOL, when I said: 'If he seems like a kind of "drinker", etc, odds are he probably is.' I meant it like he probably is just looking for sex, not probably is a drinker. Lol...

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  • JustATeen
    11 years ago

    To be honest, I personally think you should somehow meet up with him, but not too unsafely. Like maybe meet DIRECTLY at a restaurant, and park right outside. If he seems like a kind of 'drinker', etc, odds are he probably is. And, like Avant said, the "sex is meaningful" aspect may or may not be a scam, that's why I'd say carefully meet up and find out for yourself. You could also pretend to be all horny on webcam and see how it turns up...

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  • spicytoaster
    11 years ago

    He just wants sex, if that's all you want then sure meet up with him. But it sounds like what others have said, calling it meaningful is just an excuse and a deterrence from the fact he just wants to get in your pants. Good Luck!

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  • justina5565
    11 years ago

    well he is playing games with you, and if you are looking for someting serious then you need to seek someone else. find someone who is going to love you for you not to play games. dont be fool men will say anything to get what they want. the best person to ask is your father or uncle or brother they will tell you the real deal.

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  • yesnomaybeso
    11 years ago

    I'd say yeah, totally.

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  • Anonymous Post Author
    11 years ago

    Thanks for your opinion on the subject!
    This makes me wonder so much. Maybe you're right on the ''sex is meaningful'' part. I didn't think of it that way.

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    • RomeoDeMontague
      10 years ago

      First off I am wondering how you go to the same university and some how have his number without actually seeing him in person. Second if a mans first approach is about having sex, seeing you naked or how hot your body is it probobly means they just want to tap it. (tap it meaning sex) So no he is most likely not serious. All he wants is sex from you. So if you are looking for a serious relationship it shouldn't be this one.

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  • davesumba
    11 years ago

    he just wants sex, and anything he says about sex in relationships is just rationalizing his sex addiction.

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