Does he love me

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I'm completely lost here. My best friend and I "both men". Have been friends only a little over a year. When I first met him he was dating my best friend "female" I am openly gay and told her he was attractive. Later i told her he was a little gay. Then she started to see that when she first introduced me to him as her BF that me amd him clicked instantly, he would hang out with me more than her. I didn't think anything until she had asked me to test him... Now keep in mind she asked me to. So I did test him, and it worked.

First we kissed, and I instantly fell for him. We continued to hang out everyday but I never told her that we kissed. Later it came to us drinking and making out and we could talk about it. Then I broke down one day and confessed that I was in love with him, he told me he loved me to, later that night we got drunk and I held him while he cried and told me that he was in love with me but so scared. He told me he had never felt this way with ANYONE.

My female best friend ended up seeing how we were and she broke up with him and pushed for us to happen "Yes thats the crazy thing, she was all for it"

Fast forward a couple months and we finally got to a point to have sex "His wish was to be the one to initiate it" so I let him have that, even tho I had to push a little.

We tell each other that we love each other every day all day, but he still is struggling with the fact of being with me.. Another guy.

My main question is, ive givin him 10 months and we have done all kinds of stuff together and talk every day and talk about us in the relationship form, but he is too scared. Now I am IN LOVE with him and have tried leaving but it never works my heart aches and I go into a depression and when I leave he is lost. But when back together it's like a fire has started.

So does he love me? And should I give him the time he needs?

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  • Ascelin
    6 years ago

    I think he loves you, but there's a battle waging in his mind. He likely places a higher value on the opinion of others/society than most non-heterosexuals. I've met too many people, men in particular, who are afraid to acknowledge their cravings and yearnings. Not only do their feelings present the possibility of less social acceptance but it also conflicts with their self image, a piece of themselves they dare not tamper with. It's tragic, really, that humans can be so cowed down from the whip of The Masses that they don't even allow themselves a glance at their true nature, much less their fellow men. I think the future of your relationship is most dependant and his willingness to change his self perception and, more importantly, make peace with it. Another very large factor is whether you can be patient with him, waiting for him to shed his chrysalis. I hope this helps. I'm in a similar situation and have been for going on 2 years if you want to talk.

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