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I hate anal, but my husband likes to do it every now and again, not to often, thank goodness. To me, anal feels like i just have to go to the bathroom the whole time. Not very enjoyable. Does anyone really like it, or just deal with it to please there partner? Bc thats what i do. Is there anything i can do to enhance anal sex?
I do. But it all depends on who I'm doing it with. Most guys have absolutely NO IDEA what they are doing when it comes to anal sex. The first, most crass and basic mistake, is solved by the simple lesson: MY ASS IS NOT MY PUSSY! Therefore, you DO NOT treat them the same, you damn ogre!
You can do a few things, but it's mainly your man who has to get better at fucking you in the ass, and both of you will have the time of your lives. You might even end up preferring anal if he gets good. Make sure he knows about his responsibility! On your part you have to open your mind and believe us: you can have A LOT OF PLEASURE.
He can start by going down on your ass and licking you, eating your ass. After that, when he goes for penetration, tell him not to just try and force his cock inside you, and this may take a while - ooh, it's one of my favorite parts - but press the head against your anus, softly, pumping, yet slowly, as to soften you up... Eventually it will start going in naturally AND pleasurably. You should be the one in charge of the rhythm... As much as he will want to just stick it in you and pump hard, it will turn him on knowing you are enjoying and having you in charge. I don't know if I left anything out, but don't forget to rub your clit and talk dirty! :D
Yes, I left a lot out, I was in a hurry when I wrote. So, where were we? Oh, that's right, softening up to go in. You will notice that, if you are really turned on, you will lube up naturally and also the fluids from your vagina will blend in and make penetration easier (be careful not to take bacteria from your booty to your nice little pussy, you know the drill!). Once he's started to penetrate you, at least the first time you're trying it this way, tell him to be still, even if he's on top of you, so you can move your ass and hips, setting the rhythm and the depth of the penetration. Tell him to do everything else that turns you on, work on your tits, pull your hair, bite your shoulders, kiss your neck, call you his little slut or whatever it is that gets you off. My advice is to focus on YOUR pleasure and make a deal with your man to make it all about YOU, so you understand why the fuck he likes it so much! Haha
Yes. Like ^ said, try playing with yourself and also, once he has it in and you're OK with it, do it hard and fast, that tends to feel a lot better, for me anyway. Too slow and too light does feel like you're just taking a dump.
haha...ya, i agree.
I prefer vaginal, but anal can be enjoyable from time to time.
wigsplitz made me laugh, because thats something many guys seem to do. They want anal, but because many girls don't like it and they are afraid of hurting you or something, they do it very slow, careful, and light, and well, wigsplitz worded the feeling that gives just right.
In order to not just agree, but bring something into this as well(to justify making a comment instead of just thumbing up): You could also try a thin vibrator in your other opening...obviously you will need to hold it in or have a fixated one(those with straps designed to be worn under clothing). I have a small stumpy butterfly-like one fixed with straps that has a small penis-like vibrator going in and nicely stimulates my clit on the outside. I love wearing that if i am done anally.
Strap one on and bend him over. See how much he likes being on the other end.
I love to fuck women in the ass and the ones that I did enjoyed it and asked for repeats...
Yes indeed, you have to be already very much aroused, so never start the things straight with anal, do vaginal sex before. It is going to help a lot.
Also in my personal opinion using lots of lube makes it very enjoyable. We use this one:
http://www.edenfantasys.com/sex-lubricants/wate...