Do your friends suck? find it hard making new ones?

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I don't have many friends, and absolutely none really close to me.

Basically I meet new people I'd like to hang out with, or want to get together with my friends. I send them a text, and 90% of the time they might eventually get back to me, maybe the next day - but the common reply is along the lines of "Oh, hey... yeah, I can't hang out this week, I'll give you a shout next time I'm free". Of course I never hear back - and don't want to be pushy about it.

I had the best friends of my life living in student housing for a year, but I went back to my home city (only an hour away), and over the course of a year we've lost touch. They occasionally, after many months, might go "I haven't heard from you in so long! I miss you!", and I'll go "Great, can I come visit?". Of course they say "Oh, maybe later this month, I'll get back to you." Don't hear from them.

I always feel so eager inside to hang out with people, when ever anyone wants me to hang out - I'm totally up for it, I'd cancel plans for my friends, and I'm open to randomly travel to visit people, even hours away, the night they ask me to. Even If I'm tired, I'll drag my ass to a bar/club at 3 in the morning to spend time with people.

Everyone seem to always seem to have to fricken' ORGANIZE EVERYTHING. I'm open to anything, and everything - friends, sex, drug experimentation, travelling, parties, etc. and things done last moment are so much better - plans get cancelled, plans suck.

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  • Geneva5
    12 years ago

    Totally normal - keep doing what yr doing and the right people will stick. Fuck the ones that don't respond. Keep up the drug experimentation and late night clubbing - good way to form positive bonds with people. Remember most people are shit anyway - 1 good friend is worth 1000 " friends". Good luck on your quest and remember nothing is ever as it seems and everything is what you perceive it to be ;)

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  • What'sMyName?
    12 years ago

    How come when you submit a story it says you must have a clear "Is it normal?" question in your story, but this gets through?

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    • JointKiwi
      12 years ago

      ...I'm guessing the moderator could relate?

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  • niniozo
    11 years ago

    You sound a little too desperate, it probably puts people off. Sorry to be blunt, but you sound a little like a loser if you never have anything better to do, and don't need to even make plans, because you don't have any other plans. It's like relationships, play hard to get. If they ever ask to hang out, say 'oh sorry I'm pretty busy this week, maybe next time?' or try to show that you have a social life, which will make you seem cooler and people will be more likely to hang out with you. No one likes the annoying clingy desperate friend. Not that you are, but you may come across like that. Sorry if I offended you, but I hope this advice helps.

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