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Both of my parents have personality disorders but won't get therapy and are making each other worse. I am fighting hard to a) detach from them and b) stay mentally healthy myself.
I am just wondering how normal this is
| one parent has a PD | 19 | |
| both parents have a PD | 10 | |
| a family member other than parents has a PD | 8 | |
| everyone is mentally healthy in my family | 17 | |
| I don't know | 24 |
Most of my family does. My dad, whom I hardly see is a paranoid schizophrenic and a sociopath. My mum has anxiety and depression, and I don't know how to explain it but it's like she's still a little kid. Growing up it was like I was the adult, you know? My grandma is schizophrenic, my aunt is manic bipolar. My brother is developing alcohol and marijuana induced paranoia, since he's smoked and drunk every day of his life and he's just turned thirty. I have another aunt with a narcistic disorder, and my uncle in Greece has split personality.
I understand what you mean by saying that you're trying to keep yourself sane. Sometimes, the worry for your own sanity can be kind of scary...
I guess, my advice is to make sure you surround yourself with friends. Have enough time away from your parents, and find someone you trust to talk to.
The psychopath;
1.Superficial charm
2.Absence of delusions and other signs of irrational thinking
3.Absence of "nervousness" or psychoneurotic manifestations
4.Unreliability
5.Untruthfulness and insincerity
6.Lack of remorse and shame
7.Inadequately motivated antisocial behavior
8.Poor judgment and failure to learn by experience
9.Pathologic egocentricity and incapacity for love
10.General poverty in major affective reactions
11.Specific loss of insight
12.Unresponsiveness in general interpersonal relations
13.Fantastic and uninviting behavior with drink and sometimes without
14.Suicide threats rarely carried out
15.Sex life impersonal, trivial, and poorly integrated
16.Failure to follow any life plan.
Number two, the "Absence of delusions and other signs of irrational thinking" makes it quite impossible for you to be telling the truth if you know what I mean.
Oh and one can't be "manic bipolar" just bipolar, "manic depression" is the old term for it, though you seem to have created a brand new hybrid.
Fuckass.
K.
So for a person to spend countless nights taking all the electronics in the house apart in search of bugs and listening devices is normal? You mean to tell me that my father wasn't having delusions? That there really were people trying to hear his conversations? He was right all along?
My information comes from family members and family history. No mental doctor I've seen has doubted me so why should I take word from you?
Forgive my use of "manic bipolar", I actually find it funny that you felt the need to point that out.
Go back to your hole, your stupid opinions are not needed.
Fuckass.
"You mean to tell me that my father wasn't having delusions?"
No, I'm saying he was obviously a paranoid schizophrenic if he did those things, but NOT a sociopath. Come on, get with it. A sociopath wouldn't spend countless nights taking all the electronics in the house apart in search of bugs and listening devices. A sociopath isn't crazy in the slightest they are absent of delusions and other signs of irrational thinking.
A paranoid shizophrenic CAN'T be a sociopath.
He was one but not both, do you understand? Is that clear enough?
"Forgive my use of "manic bipolar", I actually find it funny that you felt the need to point that out."
Everyone should point things out. So people stop spreading retarded information, people are dumb enough these days without having to listen to you.
Yeah.
One family member with BPD.
The shit part is that, pretty much as a function of the disorder, she won't admit to it or seek treatment for it. She has also been diagnosed with depression and anxiety but likely, it is a direct result of the BPD.
The problem with BPD is to acknowledge it, the sufferer of the disorder would have to acknowledge that it is not everyone around them that is the problem and that they are not the victim of a bunch of horrible assholes but rather it is their disorder that is warping their perception. As a function of BPD, admitting that you're not a victim is almost impossible and makes it difficult to seek treatment.
I'm sure she could be pushed into it but... her family is just fucking tired. 20 years of meds, therapy, meds, therapy and the roller coaster of addiction and mental illness and expecting from them each time to be accommodating and patient...
I know what you're going to say. They should just do it because poor her is mentally ill, but most regular people have a hard time retaining their patience and accommodating spirit after 20 years of utter bullshit and being told you're completely to blame for something by someone who refuses to even acknowledge their place in the problem.
That's exactly why I was wondering how common PDs were, because oftentimes people who don't have experience with them tend to have opinions "you're exagerating"/ "but it's your mother/ father, you owe them"/ "family first" etc that as someone affected just are bs. And that lack of awareness makes it difficult to talk to "normal" people about. Also many of those who DO have PDed family have too many problems of their own to still be able to have productive healthy exchanges among each other.
I don't disagree with detaching yourself. My family member with PD is like an emotional vampire. She can suck the jubilation out of a happy gathering anywhere she goes. You really just have to look out for yourself in the end. There's really not much you can do.
Well I hope that your parents will get help.its not good for them to be making eachother worse. I wish you the best and hope everything gets better
that's really fkd up .. ! Interesting though that you say your dad is a paranoid schizophrenic but is also a "sociopath" .. How does that work exactly .. ? Paranoid schizophrenics tend to usually avoid people due to being highly suspicious of them
My dad definitely suffers/has suffered from very bad episodes of depression. He used to see a psychiatrist, which helped him a huge amount. His personality has never effected me negatively though (apart from the fact that I take after him in regards to depression), and he's probably the nicest person I know. His brother, my uncle, works in psychiatry which is probably a reason why it didn't seem as daunting a option to him as it does to a lot of people in the same position. I don't think my mum has ever suffered in the same way, although she's slightly more closed off with me than my dad is so I'm not 100% sure.
I think my dad does, but then again he drinks a lot, so I don't really know....
All of my family members have issues. My mother had depression, anxiety issues (and panic attacks) as well as bipolar mood swings, and my dad was a very private person to the point of being a recluse. He was also very cold and detached. They are both deceased now but regardless of their issues, I loved them both (and still do).
My mum suffers from depression. This causes the most extreme mood swings, almost bi polar really. When she is happy I can't think of a person more likeable. When she is down, run for your life.
I don't know if they have personality disorders, but my parents and my brother all have mental issues, as do I (but I do have a personality disorder).