Do you want to be a parent someday?
If yes, how many children do you want?
| Yes | 44 | |
| No | 32 | |
| Maybe | 29 | |
| I'm expecting my first child | 0 | |
| I'm already a mother/father | 0 |
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ScooterNyne
I totally wanna be an awesome dad. My kids will be super awesome and I'll be the geeky dad that they can always count on to do something cool and help them when they need it. At least that's how I fantasize about being a dad. I can see myself being the "do it all parent" too.
Wife - "hey im gonna pick the kids up from school"
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[Old Memory]
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GoraIntoDesiGals
We're the first generation that will have it worse than their parents and that will only worsen further so, no.
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KaffeInjection
Maybe... If i ever become a dad.. I will show my kids the world as it is when it's good.. Filled with humor and laughing, and lots of insights.. Spend alot of time with them really.
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Shroot
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NotThatInnocent
I want a baby from my boyfriend who I'm madly in love with but when I touch the subject he gets defensive. We not ready apperantly so I have to wait.
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[Old Memory]
Not really.
I did think about adopting like, 10 year olds, though, and saving them from foster care and orphanages. My thought process is that by that point, you can pretty much tell what the personality of the kid will be like, so I can ensure I will get a sweet kid. I get a kid that's really in need, but yet some level of independent, and I don't have to take care of it for as long if I'm not into my whole life being about being a parent.
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[Old Memory]
Yes so badly. I really want to make a biological child, or two. I need to stop smoking first, it reduces fertility. I don't want to take any chances. I know that if my future wife and i can't conceive I will feel that i am less of a man
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SuperBenzid
The fact that that would make you feel like less of a man should make you feel like less of a man.
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[Old Memory]
I don't like you. From your posts I know that you're a gay man, and there's a lot of nasty things I can say to you about this subject, particularly about fathering a biological child, but I'm pretty tolerant and not a hateful person so I'll just let that one go.
I understand where you're coming from, though I disagree, but that debate comes down to the semantics of what it means to be a man. Regardless of the point that you're trying to make, the fact that you've taken your opinion and made it into a personal insult is not something that I am ok with.
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SuperBenzid
"I don't like you."
It's a good thing I don't care or that would really bother me."I'm pretty tolerant and not a hateful person so I'll just let that one go. "
What am I meant to thank you for not being homophobic? Do you want a medal?"the fact that you've taken your opinion and made it into a personal insult is not something that I am ok with."
I'm not sure it classifies as an insult. I simply think that someone who believes their sense of manhood is infringed by the results of what is mainly genetic chance probably wasn't much of a man to begin with.Comment Hidden ( show )
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Jayes23
NO. I'm male and never have wanted kids. I know just how much responsiblity that means and I don't feel ready for it. I don't want to suck at being a parent.
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gargamel
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kelili
Yes! I really want to have a child and my boyfriend shares my point of view. In a year or two we'll probably have our first and then a second. I want two children.
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Shackleford96
Maybe. Sadly, the more time passes though, the more i'm inclined to say no.
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Shackleford96
The flame dwindles, friend. It's not always easy to keep it alight, know what I mean?
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Anime7
I was afraid that this would be the answer. That flame is still there though, and I know soon someone will show you that it can be lit forever. If that didn't make sense then I'll be blunt. It saddens me, and I don't want you to say that it shouldn't cause it does, it honestly makes me wonder what this world has planned for you that nobody has taken an interest in you. Perhaps I saddened at the world? I can understand the pain and loneliness, but I'm still in high school so I guess I can't understand it too much. But have hope, there are 6 billion other people in this world and you'll find one.
I know that someday you'll find someone. You're a great person, kind, educated, self-supporting, practically an all around chill person. You can't lose hope in this world, look at the users around here we all think you're a pretty great person. We can all think that, so you should to. If there's anybody that deserves to be in one of those cheesy harem anime's (you know the one's where like 3 ridiculously attractive girls end up living with one guy) it's you.
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Shackleford96
Thank you for the kind words.
I think it goes a bit deeper for me than just finding someone to be with though. I mean, sometimes I can't help but wonder...
I think about my parents sometimes. When I was younger, and we were still a happy and unified family, my parents loved each other like nothing that I've ever known before or since. It was like something you'd read in a storybook. They loved each other whole-heartedly. I don't even think I could begin to describe the love they had for each other, because it is just that: indescribable. It was something you don't really see in people anymore, or at least I don't, and if you do see it, it's extremely rare.
It failed though. The marriage. The love they had for one another. Our family. It all fell apart. Why. For whatever reason, whatever ultimately was the cause of disaster, the fact remains that they failed in the end.
I can't help but think 'What hope do I have, knowing that THEY couldn't make it work. My own two parents who loved each other more than anything I've ever HEARD of.'
I'm not really sure if I believe in marriage anymore sometimes.
For me, having children goes right along with that. The thought of trying to have a family, and then failing like they did, or like so many others have, is terrifying to me. I wouldn't ever want that for my children. So, sometimes I think it might be best to just not have any.
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Anime7
Lets say that perhaps you do meet that special someone. Whose to say that you two can't have good communication? I think that if you guys saw that you two weren't right for each other, mutually, I would at least think that you guys would keep it together till the kids were out of the house. I mean some relationships can get boring, especially if they've been going on for awhile, but that doesn't mean that you two can't talk about what you guys want. Perhaps this is the way I imagine a relationship should be, good communication and just a general want to make it work.
I've been fortunate enough to see what love is like. I'm not referring to my parents, I'm actually referring to my best friend's parents. Nearly 30 yrs of being together. I've talked with her mom before and asked her how she's been able to keep the marriage alive. She just said that they both want to make it work and both care about each other and the life that they've built together. She is a great mother and a great person, her husband is a chill dude as well. Sure they fight here and there, but they don't go to bed without resolving it. There kids aren't perfect though, my best friend, she is anorexic and was suicidal. Her older sister, who is 25 still acts like a spoiled brat, although her parents do spoil her so it's understandable but it's still not ok. Point is that a great marriage doesn't always produce great kids.
I think the fear that you have; trying to measure up and be a good father, maintaining a family, and generally just being there for the people you love. I think these fears are the same that everyone has at some point in their life. But I think that regardless, as long as you try to be a good father, you will succeed. As long as you communicate with the people you love, that will keep them from being strangers in your house. As long as you try, and your partner does to (this part requires communication) you should be able to maintain everything. Perhaps I'm wrong, I've never been in a romantic relationship, but I have been in some great friendships and still am. I talk to the people I'm close to, I tell them my fears and I express to them how I feel and ask that they do the same. I take an interest in them and they take an interest in me. Communication is key in any relationship, and I think as long as you have that you should do alright in life.
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Cuntsiclestick