Do you want a partner to be mad at you?

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I am a laid back guy i dont get angry about small things. Anyways i been seeing this girl for few months now and i noticed many times she does something like cancel a date last minute or screw up something and i am like kk no biggie. we didnt have sex until 2 months it took a while for her she would say no while making out and i was like no prob. but she says you should be mad at me. i say i dont feel like being mad its no big deal and i love you it makes me more forgiving but she still gets upset and says i need to be more demanding? i am not sure if this is normal. is anyone else like this like you feel you want your partner to be mad at you?

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  • modernism
    8 years ago

    She probably just wants you to show more emotion toward what she does so it looks like you care, and she also probably wants you to be more "aggressive". That still doesn't justify her NEEDING you to get angry, or be demanding, or whatever she wants you to be like at the time.

    She doesn't get to mold her boyfriend into whatever she wants. She should be okay with what she gets.

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  • howaminotmyself
    8 years ago

    She sounds insecure and a little manipulative. I'm sure you frustrate her by not giving in but that is her problem. You can try to get to the root of it but it may not be worth it. If she can't see your love without playing mind games then you may want to rethink things. Good relationships don't intentionally try to create upset.

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  • RoseIsabella
    8 years ago

    She sounds kinda messed up and unappreciative to me.

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  • charli.m
    8 years ago

    Sounds like someone who's been bitching about their boyfriend on here a little while now...

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    • Freedom_
      8 years ago

      Hey, I haven't been my boyfriend's bitch in a loooong time!

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      • charli.m
        8 years ago

        Hahaha I've noticed ;)

        And I'm happy that it makes you happy :)

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  • joolia03
    8 years ago

    Do you really love her? or its like eh? Because from what I have learned is if he really loves her than he'll be emotionally expressive to her/ If hes not then chances are hes not that into her. BUT I have also known some guys who don't carry or display that much emotion even when they do really love her and that can be frustrating.
    So if you do really love her, show compassion and sympathy. Make her feel loved, even if you're not mad.

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  • Naughtygirl147
    8 years ago

    Idk really I mean if I screw up or I say something and it's bad I want my bf to be mad.Sometimes he is and when he sees that I feel really bad about a screw up he pulls me into his arms and hugs me and whispers it's alright i still love you in my ear

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  • Lariii
    8 years ago

    I had a boyfriend like that, I think the issue is that if I do something unintentionally wrong, then I will want him to point it out. Also, I think of it as maybe he doesn't have high standards, and it's like I want him to not be apathetic.

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  • LizardSkin
    8 years ago

    Some(Many) women like some drama, even arguing. You have to at least give her something. Even if you have to fake it. Trivial shit to a guy isn't always trivial shit to a woman too, remember that.

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  • Freedom_
    8 years ago

    Maybe she wants to be dominated or it could be that a past boyfriend got mad at het for stupid shit and she doesn't know how to react to acceptance. Or she might be fishing for an opportunity to express herself; you being mad/demanding would give her a chance to open up andexplain herself in further detail.

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  • theseeker
    8 years ago

    Yeah, there are girls that are similar, but I can't get my head around why they like to play games like that. Personally, I think they're crazy and if I were you I'd walk away right now. I don't have the tolerance. It's just too much BS!

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