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People always say that but some seem almost hard to get out of. I know we make decisions that lead us there. But sometimes it comes our way. Are some people destined for shit?
Whether or not we grow as a result of our encounters with the toxic people of this world is our choice to make. It's rare that the growth just happens without some work and introspection. It's not easy to bounce back from this kinda shit.
I just got out of an awful relationship with a narcissist who was verbally and emotionally abusive and trying to take it to the next level of physical abuse with me. I called the cops, and they arrested him, but I recognize that I have a lot of work ahead of me. I also recognized that I had a part in this mess as well as I failed to recognize the red flags. For whatever reason I failed to heed one of the most glaring warning signs of all; he reminded me a lot of my mother who was abusive to me especially in my adolescence, and was also a master at gaslighting.
If you are not familiar with the term gaslighting please check this link out.
https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gaslighting
I had a toxic relationship ..
He was a liar, manipulative, jealous, emotionally blackmailing me and would threaten to kill himself literally (and I mean literally) every time I disagreed with him ..
I don't think I grew from that experience at all, in fact it really fucked me up .. all that changed is that I started being a bit more careful who I chose to spend my time with ..