Do you think that if someone is being cheated on they should be told?

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I know someone who is being cheated on, well, I'm not sure if he's cheated on her yet but he is definitely trying to. I found him on a website where he is looking for a "playmate" and he has nude pictures of himself. He also has one of those ask.fm things where you ask them a question and they respond and almost all of his answers bring up his girlfriend in someway, like he's trying to make it seems like he would never cheat by talking about her constantly and constantly saying he would never cheat on her. I've thought about maybe telling her but they've been together for about a year or so. I don't think she'd believe me, plus he makes her happy and its not really any of my business. But on the other hand, she could find out a lot later and getting over him would take a lot longer. When I got cheated on I had wished that someone would've told me before I found out. Do you feel that if someone knows that someone else is being cheated on they should always tell them?

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  • handsignals
    10 years ago

    It's easy to say yes but a lot of the time it's better staying out of it.

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  • ucipher8
    10 years ago

    You should let her find out on her own... Anonymous tip, this way she can decide for herself how to handle it.

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  • Darkoil
    10 years ago

    Depends how much trouble I want to cause but usually no would be the answer.

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  • RoseIsabella
    10 years ago

    Tell them anonymously, otherwise there's too much drama and weirdness.

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  • PapzBSlim
    10 years ago

    Stay out of it. If they break up, both of them may blame you.

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  • DangerousPotatoGuy
    10 years ago

    usually backfires

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  • ScooterNyne
    10 years ago

    He should tell her. Confront him about it and see whats really going on. If he really is cheating then suggest to him that he tell her immediately. It's his responsibility and not yours. Otherwise I personally wouldn't say anything. Becoming a variable in these situations creates more problems than it solves I find. It's up you though. Maybe this situation does require intervention past what I have experienced.

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    • davesumba
      10 years ago

      lol, yeah, follow this guy's advice and see how quickly you lose a friend.

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  • somebodysgirl
    10 years ago

    You can't tell if you're not sure.

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  • davesumba
    10 years ago

    Never is it okay to tell them. It is not your business, and you will do way more harm than good. And unless you have a video that shows his clear face, they aren't even going to believe you.

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  • ccjigsaw
    10 years ago

    Well seeing as this is his own damn fault and not yours, why should you suffer with this kind of knowledge and indecision? I'd tell them they're being cheated on and let it play itself out

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  • myboyfriendsbitch
    10 years ago

    Maybe he's just insecure about his body and wants to know what other ladies think w/o intending to act on his"intentions". If you're friends with the guy I'd talk to him before making assumptions and telling the gf.

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  • vanpursie
    10 years ago

    Its better to tell them the truth. You wouldn't want to be in his/her shoes and end up with the hard truth in the end, wasting your time.

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  • [Old Memory]
    10 years ago

    Hmmm, my logic on this matter is odd.

    I used to cheat alot, my male friends knew but didn't tell on me as that would be unpleasant due to my reaction to what I see as an act of mutiny.

    But I'd certainly expect others to tell me if I was being cheated on.

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  • 69
    10 years ago

    are you sure? you just said you're not sure. is that profile recent or does it go back to before the relationship started. you should talk to him and ask him about it first, not assume you know what is happening

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    • screwthestandard
      10 years ago

      Its recent.

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      • 69
        10 years ago

        then confront him first and see where it goes

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    • 69
      10 years ago

      but yes, i think it's something to tell a friend when you are absolutely positive about it. it can backfire though and the friend turn against you

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  • imadragon
    10 years ago

    Tell this guy that if he doesn't tell her, you will.

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