Do you think she would be offended

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I go to a college that has a student center that myself and all of my friends hang out in in groups. It is not a clique, just a general group of weirdos with some strangers passing through and a few familiars.

I have noticed this girl wandering around and usually she sits alone. She looks to be about mid-twenties and well... she is fat. Very fat. Clothes don't fit on her. They can't. She usually looks unkempt because of it. In addition to that, she seems to talk to herself and laugh at herself and stare at our group at times. She talks to literally no one. She just looks... lonely.

I have been thinking if I see her next semester, to try to incorporate her into our group of weird mutherfuckers. However, my fear is that she will be offended that I am assuming that because she is fat and lonely looking that she is actually lonely and be very offended at my inference.

I probably sound like a shallow asshole beauty queen and I assure you, I am not. I don't want to change her or try to force her to conform to my standards. I don't care. I just know what it's like to be anti-social and sitting alone by myself and it feels terrible. If that's her case, then I'd love her to join our group. Folks shouldn't have to sit alone.

So what do you think? Does it sound like she'd be offended if I just casually "Hey, come sit with us?". I'm fairly good at being subtle.

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  • dirtybirdy
    11 years ago

    Give it a try. The worst that could happen is either she sits on you or eats you.

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    • Terence_the_viking
      11 years ago

      Haha

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  • wigsplitz
    11 years ago

    Instead of 'hey, come sit with us' maybe do something along the lines of asking her to settle a disagreement. 'My friend over there thinks x is better than y, or a can kick b's ass, (or something like that), you have to settle this for us'.....Then if you can get her to engage in conversation with you that way and she seems cool, invite her to come with you guys for lunch, dinner or something like that later on that day. I think she wouldn't be offended if you went that route.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      11 years ago

      That sounds like a better idea, I was just going to have us all make a cock joke and try to include her.

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      • FUCK_SCHOOL_x
        11 years ago

        I were too, butt fuck it.

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  • dom180
    11 years ago

    I'm not advising you not to do this, but are you SURE she has no friends? A group of people once went to great lengths to try and incorporate me into their friend-group before; they presumed that just because I was quiet in class that I had no friends, when in reality I did have friends I was very happy with. They were also very patronising and stuck-up, and even though they meant well I had to tell them to just fuck off in the end to get them to leave me alone.

    Don't be put off by me though. So long as your don't end up patronising her, that's a very nice thing for you to do.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      11 years ago

      That's my mine fear. I don't intend to be "pusny" at all butt I still have the feeling that my assumption may be wrong. I never see her with anyone, period, but that doesn't mean much.

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      • Anonymous Post Author
        11 years ago

        *Main fear sorry

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  • cate1388
    11 years ago

    Clothes can fit on larger people if they get a bigger size

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  • JuneB
    11 years ago

    As long as you don't say something like, "come join my group of various outcasts, misfits, and social rejects," I think you should go for it.

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    Everyone's got a story to tell, and everybody's got something they can teach you... you really can't lose anything by asking. You'll either get some absurd story like, "Hey, remember that time when you asked that girl to come sit with us? And she spat in your face?" or you'll get to meet someone new and attempt to perceive their experience of life. It's better then looking back and sort of thinking you may have missed out on meeting a really awesome person. :)

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  • PapzBSlim
    11 years ago

    Just go and invite her to sit and converse with the group. There is no need to tell her that she looks lonely or unkempt.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      11 years ago

      LOL, wasn't going to tell her that.

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  • VioletTrees
    11 years ago

    Befriend her like she's just another person.

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  • Terence_the_viking
    11 years ago

    Yess got for it.

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  • standbyme555
    11 years ago

    Go for it. Or maybe ask a casual question like you're taking a poll. I find it easy to talk to people no matter what I say.

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  • bananaface
    11 years ago

    I can't see why. I think that's a very nice gesture.

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  • kelili
    11 years ago

    I think she would be very happy to know that someone has notice her and bothers to talk to her.

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