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Now I don't condone cheating whatsoever. However, I do believe in certain circumstances that one can be driven to cheat. Whether it's withholding affection or projecting your insecurities onto your s.o, cheating in these cases is eventual.
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Absolutely. It isn't always as simple as "just break up." If one's in a long term relationship with children in the mix, leaving isn't always an option. Affection, sexual or non-sexual, is a basic human need, and inhibitions fail easier than one thinks.
No they are not. They simply do not really care about the person they are with. So they are shit and don't deserve to date anyone.
The fact that there may be incentives or causes for cheating doesn't negate your ability to make decisions. Of course there are reasons for cheating, but that doesn't make it justifiable or "eventual".
No.
If you really seek something from someone else that your partner can't give, its better for both parties if you just break up first and look for someone that can give you everything you want.
No.
Someone who claims he or she is "driven to cheat" is just looking for an excuse to justify their actions.
I think not. You can not be 'driven' to do it, because you could (and should) in that case break up.
the real question should be iin for a person to be driven to break up with you, which entails having sex with others. unfortunately there are a lot of people who once they are fed up with their s/o or fall out of love, instead of breaking up with them, they will just start having sex with other people and doing stuff against their partners wishes and not feel the least bit bad about it and then have their s/o to always come home to, until they find out and end it.
No, it's just a sad excuse for being a slut. Cheating is never justified.
Yes, someone can be driven to cheat but is it right to cheat? Hell NO!!!
Answer me this then...
I love my wife deeply but she can't bring herself for whatever reason to join with me in a sexual relationship since our son was born 11 years ago. I on the other hand am I need of that contact what do I do? The thought of cheating has crossed my mind but the thought of losing my wife if she found out tears me to pieces.
I have told my wife my needs but no way forward.
I was going to say no. But honetly, certain circumstances could arise. People can have weak moments, just like anyone else, no affection, someone forces theirs on you, I dunno how it all works, I haven't cheat and wont. I can see how things could go that way though.
I don't think cheating in those cases is eventual, unless one of you does not have the commitment required to try to work out the relationship. In which case, they both obviously have communication issues and two people with poor communication skills will not fare very well at all, so I would say that break up is imminent.
Cheating, I consider to be a very childish move but I feel that people can be driven to cheat by withholding of affection, withholding of emotional support, lack of satisfaction with the affection given, boredom and unwillingness on both parts to put effort in to "re-ignite" the fire in the relationship, threat of abandonment, or the both of you already have decided that the relationship is over but you're both too comfortable with the life you built with each other to risk losing it (in other words, that life is what you love, not the relationship) or feel that leaving the person is not an option.
Either way, I feel that a person can be driven by circumstance to cheat but part of that drive rests in their own mentality. In my mind, once a person cheats, more often then not, the relationship was over before the affair started and had the affair not have occurred, they would have either continued to stagnate or one of them would have finally grown so dissatisfied that they would have left anyway. In a monogamous relationship, cheating can mean many things but more often then not, cheating is a fantastic indicator of a lack of commitment. None of the problems that I have stated above can be solved unless both parties are committed to the relationship and each other.
No, I know I am going to be the minority opinion here but I am okay with it. I feel like it is NEVER okay to cheat, and I never have myself.
I do however understand what you are talking about in being driven to this point, however I feel that once you are there, it is more mature to just break it off and move on!
Definitely.
I won't list reasons right now (I think you can come up with plenty), but I think a fair few people cheat due to being unhappy with their partner somehow.
Yes.
But it isn't the only option. To me it seems like if you feel driven to cheat on someone, what you SHOULD be doing is breaking up with them. Cheating is understandable, but not justifiable.