Do you think my gf is going to break up with me? help

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Im 19 and graduated (I am a female). My girlfriend and I started talking at the end of the school year (she will be a junior). We were both the "happy/positive/no drama" types of girls, and i always thought she was so sweet, i never would have known that we would end up dating. We only told each of our best friends, no one else, then after a few weeks of dating we came out to her parents (mine knew all along and are happy) her parents were surprisingly supportive (we are both femme so i think that helped).

We have been together for almost 2 months now, no problems, we talk so much (hey we're women) and have built a lot of trust for one another. I noticed one day that she had scars on her arm from cutting, and i was immediately shocked! she has a very depressive side of her i never knew about, for the past week she has been somewhat distant from me. we haven't been able to spend time in person for a few days because we're busy, the last time was wonderful though. but she hasn't tried talking on the phone with me which was strange then we were texting and she said she needed to talk to me.

she said she doesn't think we are working, the way she texted was weird i knew she must have been in a bad place. i asked her if she had hurt herself and she said yes, and that she was crying. she got in a fight with her parents and she's very depressed at the moment. she said she feels disconnected and doesn't think it would be good for us with the state she's in . i asked if she meant that she wanted to end it, or if she just wanted some space (isaid i would wait as long as needed) she wants some space, she said she will still text me every day but no calls and no spending time together for awhile. she said this would be good for her and our relationship because she feels "disconnected" and needs time to figure out her problems. I've never had a relationship as wonderful as i do with her. but i have never dealt with this before, should i be worried that she will leave me? It feels so distant just texting her...

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  • yesnomaybeso
    10 years ago

    I don't know if she's trying to break up with you but I think you should try and support her loads :S

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  • GoraIntoDesiGals
    10 years ago

    Space = imminent breakup. Think of it if she loves you more than anything she would want to always be with you. My ex gf used the dreaded space word too.

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    • [Old Memory]
      10 years ago

      I don't think space always means breakup. In my last relationship I told my gf I needed space and wanted to live separately but when she finally agreed she broke up with me.

      I was not intending to break up though. I know no matter how much I like someone I will always need lots of space. Some people just need more alone time than others. I do wonder though if I am able to feel love the way other people do because most emotions are different to me I think. I often do not understand when people describe what they feel.

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  • Karmasbitch
    10 years ago

    I'm sorry to hear this but unfortunately I believe this is a good sign she's not 'feeling it' in the relationship. She doesn't sound as committed as you are, and this kind of stuff happens. I hope I'm wrong but I think it would be best to look forward and move on. Best of luck!

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  • [email protected]
    10 years ago

    Both of you should make an appt.w/Dr.Kervorkian.

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  • ccjigsaw
    10 years ago

    Sounds to me like your guys's relationship is complicating her life. It's not like she doesn't like you, but being in a relationship has caused some issues that she is having trouble telling you. You need to talk to her face to face and find out what's really wrong

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  • [Old Memory]
    10 years ago

    That's why we have back-up bitches.

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  • kelili
    10 years ago

    I think that you should be much closer to her than ever. She is depressed and I don't think that she knows what she really wants.

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  • RoseIsabella
    10 years ago

    My heart goes out to you! I'm not an expert but this sounds quite serious to me. I sincerely hope that she gets the help she needs and I can't but to think that her cutting behavior sounds very much like Borderline Personality Disorder. Hang in there and take care of yourself.

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  • beforeifeel
    10 years ago

    Homosexuality is a sin.
    Not saying you cant be happy with them, but in the end there is always going to be misery and pain.

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  • Ozzy
    10 years ago

    Cut her off your life, if she comes back she is yours.

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  • [Old Memory]
    10 years ago

    Maybe she's gotten smart and figured out she needs a man in her life. And who can blame her? I mean, how the hell could a relationship between two women work out? Two little whiny, grumpy, oversensitive creatures trying to console each other. That's just pathetic. Oh and don't forget double PMS-ing lol. That shit just doesn't work.

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