Do you think it's normal to put down women?

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Just surfing the web I realized something. Women love talking shit about other women. Seriously, I don't get what the hell is wrong with people. The women who put others down and the men who tag along seeking validation. I bet you guys know what I'm talking about. The pretty girl on the internet calling other girls ugly and some douche bag guy joining along being all judgmental yadyada etc.

But you're wrong. The true culprits are the women who put hate on others to make others feel better.

We all know that girl. The one who looks at a slightly overweight girl and tells her she's beautiful and doesn't have to fit in "society's standards" and that other skinny girl looks like a twig and probably has a eating disorder.

Do people seriously not see how fucked up this is? That skinny girl has feelings too and just like how a fat girl or an unattractive may feel out of place in a society that focuses on thinness and beauty just switch society's expectations isn't going to fix shit.

I mostly see this kind of hate directed towards female models, girls who are very much have feelings, just like every other human being on the planet.

People who were born attractive are just like people who were born intelligent

So why do people act like it's okay to award people for their intelligence and view beauty as shallow. Discriminating against a person for any reason is shallow by that logic

I think if we focused more on accepting what you have and working towards your goals from there, girls would be much more confident in themselves and not just putting each other down to feel better.

I hate when people get angry that people point out that they need to lose weight. As someone who used to be fat I always knew where the people who wanted me to lose weight were coming from. Being overweight is not healthy. It's not people trying to make you conform to society's "standards". It's people who care enough to want you to be healthier. So if you're reading this and have a feeling that someone is pressuring you into losing weight just understand although people view healthy people as more attractive, it's not a reason to be healthy.

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  • 69
    10 years ago

    i'd seriously like to have several women put down

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    • Lovelove69
      9 years ago

      :)

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  • Anime7
    10 years ago

    I feel like what you're preaching is pretty much spot on. However, I don't see the point in putting choices up on this poll. Much less choices that would put someone down by saying that brains are better than beauty. Honestly both are good assets to have in life. It just seems like it's pretty much just going to be an all out agree fest.

    I mean I agree with you in what you're saying about how girls, and really guys to, should be more supportive of each other. I mean women mainly fall under the hammer of society. Constantly being told to look a certain way. Walk a certain way. Behave a certain way. It's pretty much just a bad situation to be in, so why make it worse and insult someone for not following what ad executives told you to do? If anything, since everyone is suffering, why not just support each other? Build each other up by complimenting one another, instead of tearing each other down with horrible words.

    The thing is though that I've actually seen more women do what I said than what you state. By that I mean that I've seen more women compliment each other than be mean to one another. They acknowledge when another girl looks good, but they don't say it in a way that's indicative of detrimental envy. Sure they like how that girl looks, but they also like how they themselves look. I think a lot of girls catch wind that they are seen as easy targets by the media to try and sell products to but a lot of them don't fall for their tricks. If they buy make up it's for themselves. If they dress a certain way it's for themselves. Rarely is it to impress strangers. Because that's the thing about the internet, a lot of people raise awareness to social injustices, encouraging others to be better people. To be honest that's all they can do, just raise awareness.

    I agree that a lot of hate is thrown at models, but I think a lot of that hate is misdirected and usually the assaulter realizes that her real anger lies in the ad executives who decided to define beauty.

    Yeah I think a lot of girls put each other down but that's mostly middle school kids who don't really know what the hell they're doing. When you get older, at least from what I've seen, people stop being so mean because we've all been bullied and know what it's like to be treated badly. I mean really how many cheesy after school specials are there now that teach kids how bad it is to be a bully? Probably a lot.

    The world isn't like a John Hughes film anymore, cliques are practically destroyed since jocks play video games, cheerleaders take the hard classes, and nerdy guys can get laid since playing D&D is cool now.

    I will say though on a more personal note, that I deeply empathize with your last statement, since I pretty much dropped 40lbs so far all in an effort to be more attractive. While that may be a bad reason to stop eating McDonald's every day, it kept and keeps me healthy. Nobody told me I was fat, nobody told me I was ugly; I just fear dying alone. One thing about people, mainly girls, that nobody told me is that they have no problem saying that they like someone with a great personality, but always forget to mention that unless you're attractive they won't even give you a chance.

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  • dom180
    10 years ago

    What if they are happy being unhealthy? It isn't anyone's place to tell anyone that they need to be anything. If it isn't okay to discriminate based on looks and intelligence, it isn't okay to discriminate based on health either.

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  • Purple_Monkey
    8 years ago

    I mostly think the same way, but can I a bit disagree with you?
    You wrote, that you hate when someone get angry that people point out that they need to lose weight. Unfortunately, there are a lot of proAna forums and commentators, who tell women with absolutely normal and healthy weight, that they are "fat pigs". Please just google a bit and you'll find a plenty of sites that promote unhelthy thinness and eating disorders. Some of those sites made me feel really big and overweight, when I was 5'9(175 cm) and 128 lbs(58 kg).
    Internet is not the best option to decide, if you need to loose some weight, you'd better ask your doctor, calculate your BMI and fat percentage e.t.c.

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  • RoseIsabella
    10 years ago

    I think it's also about personality. If someone has a bad personality and hurts, offends and or annoys others then it's easier to pick on their looks, weight and or intelligence because their trying to hurt each other not help. People, both men and women, want to hurt others because of real and perceived hurts they've experienced from other people. It seems to be worse and more prominent with women because women tend to be better at communication than men but I think everyone does it.

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  • Maybeoneday
    10 years ago

    Some women value intelligence, others value beauty. What's most important though, is that we value ourselves.

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  • Freedom_
    10 years ago

    Women shouldn't put each other down. Women seem to view other women as the enemy or the competition. This is probably why the progression of feminism has been hindered.

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    • Anime7
      10 years ago

      I was thinking of something similar. I mean instead of pinning the blame on women, try pinning it on the society that fed them these ideas of body competitions. That looks matter to such a crazy extent that other women call each other ugly to put them down and ultimately feel better about themselves. When in actuality, this mentality of hating somebody else for looking conventionally attractive is spoon fed garbage by ad executives to buy their products. It's like when women look at a magazine, each page just makes you feel fatter and uglier, it makes them forget how beautiful they really are. I'm not saying every girl is drop dead gorgeous, but a lot of them feel better about themselves before opening up a fashion magazine. Essentially it's the culture that women should be angry at, not each other. Hence why I was thinking something similar to you, since I know that a lot of modern feminists fight against the industry and how awful they make women feel.

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    • YourMomSaysHello
      10 years ago

      Feminism doesn't need to "progress" more than it already did. I think it's done a lot of harm to society. Enough is enough!These terms "putting people down" and such are used incorrectly because it's easily confused with competition. Competition is completely normal within the same sex because most of us want to stand out to the opposite sex therefor this competition and the urge to challenge others who try to get what we want is what helps us assure a healthy next generation.It's the stronger and healthier who should breed. It's completely natural, and it's typical for all species. This whole bullshit about a gender standing together and unite is unhealthy to society. Worshiping your own gender is kind of a sexist ideology and usually leads to repulsion and hostility towards the opposite sex. This is why i think feminism is stupid and pointless. It was useful back in the day, but now that genders are generally treated equal, it has really no place in the modern world.

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      • Freedom_
        10 years ago

        I do agree with you about the competition bit. I feel compelled to compete with other women myself. I do wear make-up for myself, but I also wear it to feel...more powerful around other women. When I don't look my best around other women who do look their best, I often feel intimidated. I've told my husband before, who asked me why I wear make-up (if it was to attract men), that it was more of my defense against women.

        We all know about the high expectations society has for women these days, so that makes this competition fierce. There is much more brotherhood than sisterhood going around because men don't feel as much need as women to compete with beauty. They are expected to contribute to society using their natural gifts while women waste their time shopping and getting pedicures. Men (most anyway)are not overwhelmed and preoccupied with such petty things and are therefore aware that they don't have to compete with *every* man that walks past them. They are also given more freedom to compete in more intellectual and multifaceted ways because beauty is at the bottom of their competition list.

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  • Hopefuldreamer
    9 years ago

    Other women tend to make fun of me for being ugly more than guys do. I don't get why when they know the beauty standards we have to live up to. I don't ever make fun of someone else for what might be a 'flaw' so why do they do it to me? People often say it's because those people are insecure. Well I am insecure, and I don't do that. So I don't buy that. I didn't choose my face and yet I have to endure people making fun of me for it all the time.

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  • Agirlsbestfriend.
    10 years ago

    Get out and walk

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