Do you think if wrong to friendzone someone because...

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it's your last year at college and you were just planning on meeting a few people to hangout as friends.

I also just want to focus on school, get a job and try to make me feel better about myself this year before being with anyone.

Plus I'm planning on moving back home with my family for a year or 2 before moving out and living on my own. My hometown is 3 hours from here.

But when I friendzone it doesn't always mean that I won't develop more feelings for them.

But I do have my plans set for now they might change later on down the road, who knows.

Yes 27
No 34
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  • Angel_in_a_Glass_Dress
    12 years ago

    It's never wrong.

    Why should you be obligated to date someone when you don't want to?

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      12 years ago

      Yeah, true to that.

      I just have a feeling I haven't met the right guy yet or it just will take me a while to develop feelings just because of trust issues from my past. I don't want to hurt him anymore than I have to; which I don't want him to develop strong feelings toward me, when I'm not towards him. Just being a friend. :)

      Which I of course would like to have at least a good friendship with him just nothing more, well... right now anyways. It's better to tell him now than later.

      Plus I don't want to have a distance relationship with anyone. They never seem to workout well for anyone.

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  • Anonymous Post Author
    12 years ago

    I ment,
    *It is wrong

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  • willyma
    11 years ago

    You could try being honest. **flew over may women's head **

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  • HellFlower
    12 years ago

    Whoops. Accidentally voted no when I meant yes. Anyways, that's perfectly normal; you have legitimate reasons. If he really likes you, he'll understand and wait until you're ready.

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    • HellFlower
      12 years ago

      I mean, accidentally voted yes instead of no. Man, I really can't think straight today

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  • thecoldhardtruth
    12 years ago

    It isn't wrong, I think those are justified reasons. It only becomes wrong if your leading this said person on.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      12 years ago

      I had told him that I'm not looking for a boyfriend for a while. Just ready to be done at college. But I still feel like I'm leading him on into believing that something for sure will happen before I graduate.

      He's the one who is keep on texting me and I only did it once just because I like him as a friend of course and it was a month later. I also have a terrible problem of saying no and hurting people, I always have to be nice.

      But I guess if he is getting lead on by me hanging out with him it sorta is his fault since I only give signs of being friend. Which I believe anyways.

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      • thecoldhardtruth
        12 years ago

        Well being "nice" will just hurt him more in the long run.

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          12 years ago

          Yeah I don't want him to develop any stronger feelings for me when I'm not towards him.

          Although like I said I did tell him that I don't want a boyfriend when we were talking about relationships basically.

          I'll just have to say something to him tomorrow since I did ask him to join my roomies and a few other people to play some board games.

          I'm thinking of saying that “I hope I'm not leading you on because if you didn't notice I had been acting a little bit awkward. I feel like I might be leading you on but I might be wrong.” Well....something like that I'll say to him before he leaves. Maybe a little more to it about how he is a nice guy and I enjoy his company too. Not a lie!

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          • WordWizard
            11 years ago

            To be honest I think you need to crush him in the worst possible way. I have known women with these sort of problems and being gentle will not get your piont across if you do not want to be with them.

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  • Energy
    12 years ago

    No, doesn't sound wrong. If you want to concentrate on yourself that's fine. Yea though you might fall for someone if you're not carefull. Unless you want to fall for someone of course.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      12 years ago

      Yeah I don't mean to sound awful. But this guy is rather nice and I've hungout with him a few times but there just isn't that spark.

      But I feel kind of awkward because I know he likes me. Some reason I kind of feel annoyed. Maybe I'm just insecure and I admit it at the moment I'm kind of confused about my feelings towards guys.

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      • Energy
        12 years ago

        Totally understandable!

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