Do you tell the one you love everything about your past?

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I have always believed in honesty. And I have been f'd over a few good times so its hard for me to trust people. And now I'm in a really good relationship and I think he is the one. But I'm not proud of everything that I have done and would like to fully forget about it. And I have changed so much since then. So should I tell the one I love everything about my past? Because I some what feel he wouldn't tell me everything about his past and I respect that because somethings are better off unknown. Everyone has done at least something that they arent proud of.

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Based on 48 votes (34 yes)
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  • jessicia16
    13 years ago

    unless you tell him everything and he tells you everything then you are not really "together" ~ that hidden secrets or past becomes a distance that seperates you ... you must be open and nude and so should he ... it will be hard to hear , perhaps he molested young girl before and has a secret fetish for them ... who knows what the truth is about him or his past ,,, but you should open to eachother if you really love him and want to connect in a true sence

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  • Kilt
    13 years ago

    Unless it could effect his health , like an STD you dint nerd to bring up the past. If you are not proud of the past you need to come to peace with it. Do not use your boyfriend as a sounding board to get acceptance because you need to accept yourself first. Until you can say to yourself this is who I am love it or leave it, then I wouldn't share if you Believe you are going to be judged unkindly. If you do open up and he is critical and mean. Then bye bye to him and find yourself a gentler man :)

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    • truelyme
      13 years ago

      Thank you. And I really want to tell him but some other people who loved me weren't really that excepting. I really just don't want to lose him... so I might not even take the chance. And I have come to terms with it and realize that everything happens for a reason... :)

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  • LAW13
    13 years ago

    Self disclosure is the key to intimacy. IF he is the one- TELL HIM. I told my husband EVERYTHING in the first 2 years we were dating. He knows how to love me better and how to nurture me now. Hes a darling man. I am so happy he knows what Ive been through.

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    • truelyme
      13 years ago

      Well some of the things that I have done aren't really smiled upon.

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  • crazyladii
    11 years ago

    Something's are better left unsaid

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  • freebee
    13 years ago

    My memory is not that good the past is best left in the past. Now is what is important

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  • Kilt
    13 years ago

    Glad to hear you have accepted your past! If there is something you do need to share with him it will come out at the right time when you feel safe in your relationship, just don't force yourself to disclose things to be accepted ;)

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  • a_blonde_paradox
    13 years ago

    No problem. ;o)

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  • Pilot
    13 years ago

    Not good idea

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  • sadtruth
    13 years ago

    There is no past in the future.

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  • a_blonde_paradox
    13 years ago

    Don't bring up your past unless he's brought it up and it's a mutual topic for both of you to share your past experiences. However, if you're in a deeply committed relationship, if there is anything important concerning a past relationship that could possibly come up and haunt you while you're with him now, you should let him know. Otherwise, keep the past in the past and as long as you aren't repeating history then that's where it needs to stay.

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    • truelyme
      13 years ago

      thanks that was really helpful. :)

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