Do you have to like yourself in order to be happy?

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I've come to the conclusion that I will never be able to accept or love myself. I don't see anything about me that deserves positive attention and I fear that if I tried to be nice to myself I would only use it as an excuse to do nothing with my life (think of it like a drill instructor in the military. They have to be harsh for the soldiers to be successful, so why shouldn't I?)
On the contrary, people online say that you have to love yourself and all that sappy rhetoric, but none of it sounds realistic.
If you met someone that was rude and annoying to be around you would find it hard to ignore those characteristics, but somehow you have to when it comes to yourself? That's pretty hypocritical.

Let me know what you think down below.

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  • Tealights
    6 years ago

    You sound lazy.

    What you need to do is make a change. To become the person you want to be takes time and work, especially time. Change never happens over night, but you have to keep at it until you get the results you want. Where to start? Well, start with what you dislike most (i.e. Weight, hair, skin, anything). You can DIY with Google, or get the help of a professional (hairstylist, dentist, dermatologist, etc). You're not hopelessly lost, you're just allowing yourself to be.

    As for the title question, the answer is yeah. If your self-esteem is too low, you'll lack confidence. Lacking confidence in yourself means you wont have much respect for who you are and feel you deserve little to nothing. This will not only make life seem shitty, but people take advantage of those with low self-esteem (i.e. abusive relationships/friendships, users, etc). Also, if you do luck out and find someone who genuinely loves you as the person you're unhappy with being, it'll develop into emotional dependency (that's if it doesn't inspire you to change).

    Stop wallowing, and make yourself happy.

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    • EccentricWeird
      6 years ago

      "You sound lazy. What you need to do is make a change."

      Thanks, doc!

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      • Tealights
        6 years ago

        You're welcome. An apple a day keeps me away.

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  • SmokeEverything
    6 years ago

    You should love yourself always. You're the only one you'll ever be. The first step to happiness is accepting who you are.

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  • RoseIsabella
    6 years ago

    http://m.quickmeme.com/img/bc/bc623b0e4f07149059126f88ddfa660bfa84fc5ba985f0c79e7dcb7eaf97eb0e.jpg

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  • e51pegasi
    6 years ago

    I think you have to accept who you are, be comfortable in your own skin & respect yourself before you can truly love someone & have that love reciprocated. Once you respect yourself you will not tolerate a someone with a shitty attitude/manner in any aspect of your life.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      6 years ago

      How would you even go about doing that? I don't really understand where to start.

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      • e51pegasi
        6 years ago

        If you have anyone in your life who uses you as a doormat, is permanently rude/offensive towards you or is a psychic vampire say goodbye to them. You can do without them. Having positive, well meaning and happy people around helps. Adopting a positive mental attitude helped me no end.

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  • bubsy
    6 years ago

    "I've come to the conclusion that I will never be able to accept or love myself."

    Replace 'myself' with 'my current self' and you're right. You make a good point: you just aren't dumb enough to fool yourself into self-love when you know you aren't worth loving.

    So you just have to become someone worth loving: take on responsibilities, create things instead of just consuming them, constantly improve your mind and body. It's a hard road, but it sure beats misery.

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