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Do guys love to chase girls who play hard to get? Do you guys ever get tired of sending good morning texts, texting the girl first and dishing out compliments? And how much (in terms of actions) is too much playing hard to get?
Nope, never have, never will. If a relationship doesn't proceed smoothly, I'll likely just move on. I do not like to play those kinds of games.
Nope. I found the idea of "the chase" quite insulting if I am honest. Why would someone enjoy the idea of being someone putting more effort in to someone than they care to give to you? You're basically saying "I'm ok with treating this person like treasure while they treat me like garbage".
Why do you think guys don't brag by saying "Oh, man. I done everything for her and she doesn't do anything for me. She's such a catch amirite!? :D"...?
I wouldn't even bother with such a person. I'm not going to imply they are worth more than me or deserving of me chasing them more than an equal trade off of equal interest in eachother.
From my experience with guys, they hate it and move on to someone that actually wants to be with the guy as much as the guy wants to be with them.
The idea of "the chase" is insulting.
Yeah but if she gives in too early she's a "slut", so what's a girl to do? Did it ever occur to you that girls would like to go with their actual desires but fear being called a slut so they play games they don't want to play to avoid being a "slut"? Can you really blame girls for dragging it out when the consequences for going with their true desires are so negative?
Girls aren't considered "sluts" for having interest in one person and chasing them just as much as the guy is chasing them. Just because a girl can be considered a slut for "giving in too early" with numerous guys frequently does not mean she would be for doing it with one guy, especially when "the chase" is not just having sex.
Also given that this idea you are implying that there is only "the chase" or giving in too early is ridiculous. Just because you chase a guy for a romantic interest does not mean that you are trying to jump his bones, it means you are trying to be with them.
You're merely trying to make this something it isn't just to paint women as the poorly done to ones here rather than just accept that women playing games are ridiculous.
Stop trying to exaggerate the idea that if a woman does anything but not do anything to impress a guy then she'll be called a slut. It's like me saying "Well why do you think a guy doesn't show interest in a woman?! He'll be labled a pig for it!!!"
No.
Women are pretty much forced to play games. If you don't get that then I can't help ya. Women are judged quite harshly on how soon, or how far off, they choose to have sex.
yeah probably by other women who think about it and are as anxious about it as you.
I'm 22 and I've been with 14 men and 2 women and I have openly stated it and have never been called a slut or given any amount of shit for it save for whatever a religious zealot would say.
I've been given more shit for being a female mechanic than I have for being a female who loves to fuck. Any amount of crap I would get would most likely be from females and in the adult world, if you want someone and they want you, a crowd of people could be standing there and shouting that you're a slut and literally no one else would care.
Bullshit. There's plenty of people out there who think you're scum for sleeping with that many people already! Hell, just for being bisexual!
I find it hard to believe that you've never been the victim of a rumor or accusationof a sexual nature, especially if you're a female in a male-dominated career. I have been there and know how that goes.
No they're not. You repeating that does not make it so. You're merely trying to paint women as poor victims for their unfair and ridiculous behavior.
"if she gives in too early she's a "slut""
People who think that are dumb, so you can ignore them. Unless they're your boss or something.
I agree, they're dumb sexist assholes. But it happens and it's still a prevailing attitude so what's a girl to do?
I'd bet my life that you couldn't find one modern woman who didn't behave a certain way to avoid being labeled a slut and/or got accused of being a slut even with no grounds. Slut is such a devastating label and it's also very readily believed even without evidence. It's not really a joke or something a girl can brush off. It causes very real and very dangerous threats to safety, employment, schooling, etc.
Guys hear a girl's a slut? More likely for her to get sexually assaulted. Women hear she's a slut? More likely to get rejected, assaulted, teased mercilessly, run out of a job, school or even a neighborhood.
Suicide.
I think I've said enough.
Oh Gawd! If I'm running it means I'm trying to get away, so please don't chase me.
Girls can't win here. If she goes with her feelings and gets with a guy, she's a slut. If she holds her feelings back out of fear of being called a slut, she's a tease. A bitch. Or whatever.
No she just acts naturally and nurtures interest if she is interested. No one calls them a slut for that and if they do its that person's problem not the girl. Some people act like its still the 1950's. This is the 21st century.
It's true though. Nobody judges a male for having sex "too soon". It's all up to the female as to when sex happens. If she allows it too "soon" she is a slut. If she makes a guy wait she is a bitch for stringing him along. Explain it any other way. Go ahead, I'm listening.
I'm sorry but you are too stuck in the wishful thinking of victimizin women to apply any reason to. To claim women are called condemed for any display of sexuality is too far out of reality and I know that I could slap you across the face with reality and you would still try and paint women as victims in every direction because you want women to be victims even if they're not because it makes women seem unique due to their unique problems that don't exist which by expansion makes you the same due to being female.
No. Women are not considered negative things for having sex soon with ONE person soon. Yes, women are seen negatively for stringing someone along for a very long period of time, not a natural amount of time.
Again, you're exaggerating everything to make women out to be victims of something they're not.
I know negative reactions don't happen every time but it still happens far too often.
"No. Women are not considered negative things for having sex soon with ONE person soon."
Yes, often they are. You've never heard guys say things about a girl who slept with them on the first date or make reference, in a negative manner, to how quickly they slept with a girl? Not all guys do this but a lot do. And others judge it too once they find out.
"Yes, women are seen negatively for stringing someone along for a very long period of time, not a natural amount of time."
What's a "natural amount of time"?
"Yes, often they are. You've never heard guys say things about a girl who slept with them on the first date or make reference, in a negative manner".
Yes...I've heard men complain that a woman had sex with them when that is what the guy wanted...Because that makes loads of sense (sarcasm).
I'm not saying it doesn't happen I'm sure it does, I'm saying it doesn't happen much which is why most people don't hear about a guy complaining about a woman having sex with him and that you are exaggerating it to make it seem like it happens atleast half the time, which it doesn't.
Natural amount of time, if they are dating and depending on age, is a month most unless there is religious reasons.
I had a girl that I was really keen on string me along for 6 months. Every time I'd try call her she wouldn't answer and when i'd text she'd take up to 4 days to reply but when she would reply she would be so keen in the MSG that it would give me hope. Every time I was almost ready to give up on her she would give me signs of interest. In the end though, she was not for me. I want a girl who is a bit more reciprocating than that. It drove me crazy.
Honesty I worry a bit about guys who are into that. Think about it, if they accept as natural that you should try to AVOID a relationship with them, maybe they're right.
To an extent. I draw the line at having to always initiate things, atalways having to be the one that calls and fixes tthings. Desire is a two way street. Just because men are supposed to give chase doesn't mean they don't like feeling worthy of it themselves.
It seems pointless to me. It's really illogical and makes the whole purpose of courting more difficult and time consuming.
No, I hate those things. I wouldn't be interested in someone who is not interested in me.
I don't like needy either. Sending a bunch of texts is annoying.
I don't play games with girls anymore. If they ever try to test me, I break it off immediately. Aint no body got time fo dat.