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I used to be. I started to understand now that if you don't "sugar coat" your advice, then you get seen as a bad person, well, that's what happened to me anyway.
For example, if someone makes a story saying "Why don't I have friends" then explains he doesn't go out much, I would usually say "It's your own fault. If you want friends you're going to have to make the effort to make some, not expect random people to come to you and ask to be your friend."
While others would say "Aww, just keep your chin up, go to college, you'll get some friends there".
So now, I just see no point in it. My trait on here is brute honesty. It's a shame people rather a sugar coated truth than a blunt truth.
It has nothing to do with sugarcoating to me - a lot of people mistake being honest with being an outright jerk (including me sometimes).
For example, if someone made a story about how insecure they are about their weight, I think we can agree that there's a huge difference between replying with "you're fat and it's all your fault, stop blaming other people" and "it's your responsibility to try and change that, so try and focus on your health". Despite both comments saying the exact same thing, there is a clear difference in tone. One is aggressive and one is constructive.
I agree that flowery lies are irritating and unproductive, but painful honesty can be just as unproductive. It's a skill to be able to express a controversial point without alienating or offending everyone. It's what I've been trying to learn lately. It doesn't always work, but it's definitely a useful thing to learn.
Yeah, that's understandable. Although, I don't see how it's hard for such people to try level with me before trying to completely be rude towards me.
I completely agree with that point. Although, I've never insulted people in such a way. I would say it's their fault unless they have a body problem that makes them that way, but I would never say something like "You're fat, it's your fault" because what I say isn't me trying to insult someone for the way they are, more like trying to get them to realize that it's their responsibility to chamge the way they are if they seek to change themselves, and if they expect it to be easy, then they're fooling themselves.
I don't sugar coat anything, either do I make something bitter. I like to think I say it from a nutral area, one that has negative and positive sides that you need to hear without adding the sympathy or insult part in it.
Hope I made sense here.
I was close friends with a girl one time who was like this. It was one of the reasons we were such great friends. I miss her sometimes... Anyway, your blunt honesty doesn't go unappreciated ItDuz.
Thank you. I haven't been as blunt on advice recently, it causes too much effort nowadays due to people constantly trying to challenge me on me being blunt. I'm glad some people are still around that appreciate my input. Thanks, Shackleford96.
Well you shouldn't really care what others think ItDuz. Its best being yourself and honest; so be blunt.
I admit I can get offended by certain blunt answers from people but its the truth most of the time, so why argue.
If they try to argue back to you just don't argue back. If you say anything back just be “I was just being honest with my own opinion.”
It's just irritating how much I get pestered by people for stating my opinion. I'm one of those people that respects everyone and anyone enough to reply to them if they have taken their time to comment and reply to me, so I get alot of hostility if I say that I still believe in what I say.
But, that is good advice. Thank you, Saycheese.
I'd say that I only offer advice based on my experiences or those of my friends. However, that's coz I'm older than most of the teens who lack life experience and they're fumbling their way through life making many of the same mistakes I made. I doubt they'll listen to advice on love though but it salves my conscience to know I tried.
I just post my own opinions on whatever. I can't say I give the best advice since I'm still young, but I try to give a positive effort on what I think is best. I still have my whole life a head of me to learn, explore and have many other experiences.
But if someone doesn't like my advice and opinions... just whatever then, I won't argue.
I'm still young, but older than most people here (I think). I've been self-reliant and living on my own since I was 18. I struggled so much for a long time and managed to survive a lot of bad shit, so I have more "life experience" than most people my own age. I am not well-educated. I don't mind being wrong. I have bad days, but most of them are good. I'm pretty social, but not an extrovert.
If people enjoy the advice I give, then I'm glad they did. If they disagree, then that's fine too. If they hate the advice I give them, then I'm glad I could stir some passion in them.
I'm not an expert advice-giver, but I try to share what I know and shut up about the things that I don't. :)
No matter what a user says, there is something to be learned from each person here.
I have a fairly good track record for helping my friends in real life, but honestly, I'm not experienced enough to give solid advice about certain things. For example, I've never had a long-term relationship, so I tend to avoid giving advice beyond a common sense slap-in-the-face if someone is obviously in denial or painfully naive.
If I can not give advice I post it in chat for people to see. I feel bad when I can not think how to answer something.
I think I'm better at giving advice than I am at taking it, and I like to think I can help some people by offering a reasonably objective opinion - that's sometimes all that's needed, somebody outside the situation, unfettered by the emotion. I try my best anyway.
I went with the third choice. I know that there are allot of users on here that have experience more things than I. I try to give the best advice that I possibly can. Whether, I pull it from inside myself or I uproot it from my surroundings, I hope that people are benefited from it.
I try to comment and give advice on every question I have some knowledge of. I feel not only the quality of the comment but also the comment itself gives the OP some comfort.
I wouldn't give advice on something I know nothing about. If I know, I speak/type, if I don't know, I just read what other people say.
I have much useful information scraped from the gutters of life. Try me!
No. I mostly just look at what others post, putting in my mostly useless comments here and there.
I try to give advice on things related to microbiology..but there aren't many stories about that. Otherwise, I try to give advice from what i've learned through life experiences...but I don't really know when to shut up.
I only give advice if I am 100% confident that it is valuable. If I don't think what I have to say will be helpful I keep my opinion to myself.
I don't know if my advices are that helpful but I like giving people advices and hope they will help them...
But sometimes I am just trolling especially when a user gets insulting to another one!
People shouldn't be talking to strangers for advice that's fucking insane you are a fucking moron and i just Jizzed myself