Do you consider your judgements accurate?

Both on is it normal and in everyday life I see people making judgements on themselves and others, however a lot of the time I feel that this judgement is not true.

For example, just last week I came across someone who considered themselves open minded, yet they don't like to look at different perspectives. When I told them this, their response was beyond a joke!

I also find that not many people seem to understand who I am, and make brash assumptions, yet consider themselves observant. I know that the views I hold of myself may also be unreliable, but some of the things people have said about me are so far from the truth that I'm not even sure where they got the idea from.

Anyway, do you question people's judgements of themselves and others? Do you question your own judgements? If you want you could tell us how you view yourself, and maybe other users could tell you whether they think that's true or not:)?

I think my judgements are accurate, and that others aren't 6
I think my judgements are accurate, and that others are 6
I think my judgements are accurate, I'm not sure about others 21
I think my judgements aren't accurate, and that others aren't 6
I think my judgements aren't accurate, I'm not sure about others 1
I think my judgements aren't accurate, and that others are 0
I'm not sure about my judgements, others are accurate 1
I'm not sure about my judgements, others aren't accurate 6
I don't care 7
Other, please add comment:) 7
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  • noatomsk

    Luke 6:41-42

    [41] "Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother's eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye? [42] How can you say to your brother, 'Brother, let me take the speck out of your eye,' when you yourself fail to see the plank in your own eye? You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother's eye.

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  • I think nobodys judgement can be truly accurate. Just like you said, someone claimed they were open minded yet they wouldn't see different perspectives. Everyone is like this, so nobody's judgement is accurate. If you think your judgement is accurate, you might want to reflect on that.

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  • Saycheese

    I know for sure my judgements aren't always accurate. I try to never assume anything negative on what others think apon me though, even though I seem to make a lot of negative assumptions on what others think of me or by their actions.

    Its just always best to talk things through with others. I agree that I may think I'm better than others time to time but I know for sure I'm not. I always like hearing others opinions more that telling mine most of the time also. I judge myself more than others.

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  • Avant-Garde

    I try not to judge. I don't know if my "judging" has ever been accurate, but I often find that when people do it to me, that they are wrong.

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  • Gena45

    I think people's judgments can never be fully accurate. I can't even count how many times I hear people judging people whom I know. They say all these things as if they knew everything in the world, and their judgments are always so far off from the truth. Also, I think pretty much everyone judges themselves inaccurately. Pretty much everyone thinks they are better then other people. But obviously, it's impossible for everyone to be better than everyone else.

    I also know some of those people who say they are very open-minded, and those are probably the most close-minded individuals I know.

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  • Milenajonijon

    someone once told me i "have no reasoning behind anything i say". we only knew each other for two days, but i thought that was pretty harsh.

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    • Wow that is harsh haha:P

      Why did they say that or was it just out of the blue?!

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      • Milenajonijon

        It was kind ofout of the blue but he was mad at me. He had been drinking wen i was at a work funtion in las vegas... But I always think about it snd I often question myself because of it. It just stuck in my mind

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  • Dozis

    I think it is possible to judge anybody positively or negatively no matter what they do or say. Therefore judgments are irrelevant whether they are accurate or not. It is merely a matter of... Perspective. And... Of how the decisions these people you are judging are taking influence your life. Your life takes place in a specific environment which can be either made worse or better for you and your needs by the people around you. So that is what your judgments are all about. You judge others based on what you need to be in order to get what you need to survive. How could it be any other way? So if what they do is somehow against what you think the world arpund you should be in order to get what you want, if they do not do and therefore are not what they should be to create that world, of course you cannot judge them positively because it is in fact like they are killing you. By posing a threat to the full expression of your personality. That's why we cannot possibly all get along man. It just ain't gonna happen.
    We all need roughly the same things to survive. But we want more than someone else has got.And that puts us in the necessary position to judge harshly,especially those who could get what they need to survive by not so nice means. Even if you do not judge anybody,meaning you do not use rationality to form an oPiniOn about somebody you would still feel one way or the other according to how dangerous and how useful for your ends,goals,people around you are. And if for some unexplainable reason you form a positive opinion about somebody who does not quite stand for anything you might stand for,you'd end up finding out the person in question,never really was somebody to trust or to think about as somebody useful for you to reach your own order. So, that's pretty much it.
    You judge him,he judges you, based on these preconcieved notiOblahblah

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  • taciturn

    Studies have shown over and over that people overestimate everything about themselves. We have this ideal image of ourselves in our minds as a caring, open-minded, strong, intelligent person - basically, everyone thinks they're above average, even if that's statistically impossible!

    It may sound like a bad thing, but I think it's a pretty useful sort of illusion. There was a study that had participants play a simple puzzle game, and were asked to rate their own performance. People who were clinically depressed were far more accurate with their predictions of their own scores than emotionally healthy people. So basically, this ideal self-image we have is keeping us from destroying ourselves at the realization of how mediocre we all are.

    Pretty interesting, huh?

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    • Yeah, I thought people were quite harsh on themselves, and then a poll popped up about how intelligent we think we are, most people clicked on the options above average.

      It makes me wonder whether a lot of people genuinely have low self-esteem. It sounds harsh, but one day a friend of mine (a very pretty one at that) was complaining yet again about how ugly she was, and I decided to agree with her just to see how she'd react; she got the biggest shock, and said "thanks" sarcastically.

      Somehow I doubt someone with low self-esteem would take such offence to that, because I've noticed when people do have bad self-esteem they agree with you instead of getting insulted!

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      • taciturn

        Exactly. I think fishing for compliments is done all the time, just usually much more subtly. But we can't admit it, because if we did we'd have to admit that we're insecure about ourselves! People who act like they are in complete control and entirely stable are, simply put, bullshit artists. Everyone wants validation from others.

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    • taciturn

      And just to add some credence to my comment, I was the first person to pick a poll option that said "I think my judgments are NOT accurate". So far everyone's voted that their judgments are accurate, or "I don't care". People are fascinating!

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  • wigsplitz

    I'm sure people don't think I'm anything but a hostile, agressive person, because I am, a lot. And by being so, I believe I prevent people from seeing that I do have a good side. Maybe my hostility is unwarranted sometimes, I'm sure it is, but I don't always see that...and I have trouble recognizing when someone is challenging me, and when it's perhaps just an innocent comment (or maybe they don't know me yet and didn't know what they were getting into?)

    Honestly only a few people here actually, personally piss me off. I actually really do like a couple people, but they probably don't know it, one person is so self-important it's not even funny, the rest are just either kids or not worth remembering.

    To answer the question, I do think my and other's judgements can be accurate, however, incomplete.

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    • There's also someone on here who I find self-important, I wonder if it's the same person:P Maybe it's me!

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    • dom180

      I'm wondering which of those three camps I fall into now. I've got a feeling I won't like the answer :)

      Seriously, I've always quite liked you, even when we disagree. Which is often.

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      • wigsplitz

        Well I'm not going to name names, good or bad, I don't think that would be very prudent! I'd hate to see the post get all personal and turn into bashing and popularity contest, I hope that doesn't happen.

        Let's just say, I may call someone an asshole or something in a comment, but that doesn't mean I dislike you. But don't take that to automatically mean I DO like you because I've called you an asshole before...lol. It shall forever be a mystery!!

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        • dom180

          I'm glad you think like that, because I normally think the same way.

          You have got me curious now. I hate it when this happens, because I know that you'll never tell us :/

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  • Energy

    Everyone has their own opinion.

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