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I don't like the idea of my boyfriend getting excited over another woman's body. But I wanted to know what you guys think.
Do you seriously think that when your bf started going out with you he stopped being attracted to other woman. That's just stupid.
Do you seriously think that every guy thinks the way you do. That's just stupid.
No more so than looking (not ogling) a pretty girl in passing. If you are going to be judging your guy by how you see life (if you are a girl) then your relationship is doomed.
Healthy guys have no problem getting physically excited by a picture or video of women without any emotional attachment at all. It doesn't demean you or your relationship, if he does this, if you don't make a big deal over it.
However if you'd like him to stop, then I suggest you make yourself available to him sexually every 2.5 seconds, which is supposedly how often young men think about sex.
How wrong you are. If a man has to look at porn, there is something wrong.
Porn takes the beauty out of making love, and makes it seem cheap and forced. It is a recipe for disaster.
Sadly, it's your attitude and that of others like you who turn sex into a dirty word.
I'm not sure if you are male or female, but I'd but dollars to donuts you are frigid.
Porn turns sex into a dirty word. Apparently you have never really enjoyed making love. So sorry.
What in the world has one to do with the other? There's fucking and making love and a million things in between.
What are all the lonely single people out there supposed to do with their sexual urges?
So many on here call ME mean and unsympathetic, yet people like you would have the world live by your puritan ways and rules, for no other reason than you have found gawd? that's really sad.
Not necessarily. Your attitude in this thread makes it look a lot more like you view sex as a dirty thing.
Bottom line though, if you don't like your guy doing it, find a different guy. There are guys that don't look at porn out there.
I very, very rarely look at porn, but it's because I have a magnificent sex life and bed on average 20 or so new women every year, with a handful of others that are repeat encounters. But somehow I doubt you'd find my lifestyle to your liking.
No, I don't consider it cheating.
I'd like to think that a lot of the time I'll be enough but that's not always realistic I guess.
Everyone has fantasies & for some that includes people other than their lovers.
Something else to consider. It may not be the women he's watching porn for.
The only times I've watched porn recently I've basically only been turned on by things I can imagine doing with my girlfriend & imagining us in the scenarios happening on screen.
The girls are actually a turn-off a lot of the time
It's not cheating unless he's making the porn. Look whether or not women like it guys love porn and will never stop watching it. I understand you don't like it but the reality is if you don't allow your boyfriend to watch porn he will do it secret and resent you. So just ask him to be discreet and not leave it laying around for you to see.
May I ask why it's a problem for you?
Do you think that your boyfriend should only be allowed to get aroused in your presence?
That's a really unfair expectation of your man. He's supposed to be loyal to the end and he's never allowed to look at another women again?
Don't you think he'll get bored?
Why is it always about the man getting bored so he can go out and get turned on by a flat screen? What about the woman getting bored because a man doesn't have the skills to turn her on due to his lack of real experience? Porn does not give a man experience in the bedroom. Give me a man that has skills please!
Right, because the only possible thing to entertain yourself with is porn. Sad.
Try being a woman with a man who is addicted to porn. Women are still considered the lesser of the species in our culture, and porn helps men perpetuate this and feel superior to their women. Men who have to look at porn are insecure idiots.
Try being a man that's with a woman that's addicted to romance novels. Poor guy can never live up to those male heroes and won't even know how to begin if he even realized that was who he was being compared to, all he knows is that somehow, for some reason he just doesn't measure up in her eyes.
While I would agree that porn can set up some unrealistic expectations of what sex is like to the men that watch it, having even passing real experience should show him the difference between fantasy (porn) and reality (that frigid bitch sleeping next to him), so I doubt except for teenage boys porn is just an escape from the real life situation he's found himself involved in.
Well its either him getting satisfaction from porn then a women why dont u both watch it and take ur love life to a new level
Yes its totally normal you feel this way ! I dont like the thought of my gf cumming to other guys but as long as she aint fucking them I guess
I think if more women understood what men wanted they wouldn't have this problem to begin with. The simple fact of having the problem indicates that the woman doesn't "get" her guy.
Bullshit. Try being a woman with a man who is addicted to porn. Women are still considered the lesser of the species in our culture, and porn helps men feel superior to their women. Men who have to look at porn are insecure idiots.
Try being a man that is with a woman that makes it out like sex is some dirty thing that she only did the couple of times it took to get the children.
The insecurity you speak of is, in my experience, on the part of the woman that: doesn't want to be seen naked, doesn't want her ass up in the air, etc. All of these things stem from being insecure, but does she deal with her issues? Nope, your post is a shining example for shifting the blame.
Here's the solution: If you don't want to be with a guy that looks at porn... don't. Maybe you'll find a guy desperate enough to have missionary position sex in the dark once a year, or maybe not, but don't put the onerous of solving YOUR problem on someone else. The guy looking at porn is solving HIS problem*, and that's ok. The solution to everyone's problem lies before them, it's only themselves that are holding them back.
*Truth be told, the guy is only putting a finger in the dyke, he should be out looking for a woman that has the self confidence of a porn star. I'm here to tell all those guys that those women are indeed out there. You best bring your 'A' game because holding on to them is harder than the frigid ones that just want you to support them and shame you for having natural urges. But they are out there.
I used too... It still bothers me a little bit but I guess it's okay. As long as they aren't live chatting or web camming with someone it's not really personal, so I don't feel as threatened.