Do you believe in marriage?
Personally I don't. Love is never having to say 'I love you'.
Marriage is a man-made contract.
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ThatOneGuyYouNeverWantToMeet
"If marriage didn't exist, would you invent it? Would you go "Baby, this shit we got together? It's so good we gotta get the government in on this shit. We can't just share this commitment between us. We need judges and lawyers involved in this shit." - Doug Stanhope
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LloydAsher
I mean marriage involves mixing finances and if theres a rift between you too it could leave one of you without a source of income. Historically this was more of a females problem with losing the bread winner. Now it's more of a problem on the males side.
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raisinbran
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palehorse
What do you mean by "believe" in marriage? It's obviously a real thing that exists.
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Seriouslythough
It only exists because once upon a time, some moron came up with the idea.
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gaz3912
I meant what I said.
No other animal on the planet needs a wedding or piece of paper to prove their love.
Next...
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CozmoWank
They also don't need:
real estate deeds,
car registration,
hair dye,
pants,
pin numbers,
passwords,
smart phones,
tattoos,
piercings,
consensual sex,
insurance,
indoor plumbing,
toilet paper,
abortions,
condoms,
urinals,
toothpaste,
deodorant,
Facebook,
Screen names,
shoes,
birth certificates,
cooked food,
jobs,
3,000 mile oil change,
passports,
appointments,
visiting hours,
crosswalks,
bike lanes,
alarm clocks,etc...
We're high maintenance with special needs.
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palehorse
It's not to "prove your love". A marriage is a legal and to some extent, social, contract.
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JellyBeanBandit
I don't believe in the government being the authority on defining who is married and who isn't, they didn't invent marriage and it's none of their business anyway. I would like to have some kind of a ceremony one day to declare that I want to be with that woman for the rest of my life, that would be really special. It wouldn't be a legally registered marriage, but I don't need the government's recognition to validate my marriage to anyone.
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I don't believe in marriage licenses, tax breaks or any legalities surrounding marriage. It should have nothing to do with the government.
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CDmale4fem
Maybe, I don't know, they love each other enough and don't want to sleep alone for the next 30 years.
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Clunk42
As a Christian , I say marriage is made by God and has nothing to do with man-made contracts. It is purely a holy contract.
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gaz3912
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AndrewJacksons4thgrandniece
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[Old Memory]
I just can’t comprehend how two people would want to spend their life together.
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LloydAsher
Cause life sucks and dying alone is a human fabricated fear but worthy one at that.
I'm a logical person and marriage should be an endgame to those who dont wish to be alone at the end of thier lives. Mixing in all the legal bells and whistles makes it harder to seperate on a whim. Therefore the marriage should last longer. Really depends if you marry a winner.
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Ellenna
You do realise one of the parties to any marriage is going to be alone at the end of life? What's more, marriage doesn't guarantee permanency of the relationship itself.
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[Old Memory]
I get point about not wanting to dye alone, but you have to put up with so much of each other’s bullshit.
I don’t like the concept of dying without somebody that would care for me (or vice-versa), but in the long run I value my time alone or spent with friends over a significant other.
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LloydAsher
Clearly you havent seen a seamless marriage. Yeah they have some little problems here and there but they have come to a point where you really dont care as long as they can put up with your shit at well.
I'm adult enough to put up with someones little problems as long as they can put up with my quirks.
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Ellenna
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Ichabuskene
Marriage is not just a tax break and a way to share insurance, it is a symbol of completeness when you find someone you can't live without. And it's way cooler to say "my wife" or "my husband" than to say "my girlfriend/boyfriend."
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AndrewJacksons4thgrandniece
I 100% do. It's making a commitment to a person. Telling them in front of everyone you love, that they are yours forver. Because even if you know someone loves you, there is always room for doubt if you don't hear it. If they never tell you they are commited to you, it's hard to know if you are on the same page. And if you truly loved them, getting married wouldn't even be a question because you aren't ever getting a divorce, you aren't ever going to see anyone else. So why wouldn't you.
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Cuntsiclestick
Honestly, I wouldn't want to get married. I think what puts me off of it is the fact that I've seen others get divorced, and it seems like one person always gets screwed over. If I got married and divorced, I'd probably be the one to get screwed over. XD
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BleedingPain
I like the idea of marriage, but dont think you should have to legally bind yourself to another person to have kids or live together forever.
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bbrown95
I guess it depends for me. I know with some people it is a cultural or religious thing. I do have religious beliefs and would probably choose to get married if I planned on having children or maybe if I had been with a guy for a long time and could see us being together for the rest of our lives. However, I'm still kind of on the fence about it and like you, I think it's pretty much just a man made contract that is extremely expensive to get out of if the marriage fails.
If I ever were to get married, I'd have to have been with the guy for at least a few years first. I personally don't see how people can jump into marriages after having only dated for a few months.
I think I'd like to just get married at the courthouse if I were going to ever get married as well. I'm not a big fan of weddings, myself, though I know they're a big deal to some people. I just can't see myself spending thousands of dollars on one day and I don't like being the center of attention. They seem like a lot more stress than they're worth.
All in all though, I'd probably just prefer to not get married if I wasn't going to have kids. For the most part, all it is is a contract and it shouldn't change your relationship.
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gaz3912
You don't need a piece of paper to have a baby.
It is perhaps the easiest of all human interactions to have sex, our species depends on it.
Homosexuals have one advantage in that they can never conceive, and can have as much sex as they like without fear of producing an unwanted baby.
There are too many women who have been or are 'dumped' the moment they fall pregnant by men who do not want a 'lifetime' commitment.
Condoms can be a life saver. 😁
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bbrown95
You do have some good points there!
I'm not even sure I will want a baby anyway, honestly. I definitely don't want one any time soon at least.
I've seen women dumped after they become pregnant as well, and I've also known women that have tried to "trap" men into staying with them by getting pregnant and thinking the guy won't leave if he has a child. If I ever do decide to have a child, it will have to be with someone I've been with for years and we will have to have a mutual agreement, so it won't be a surprise. I'll definitely do my very best to prevent an unwanted pregnancy.
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gaz3912
Thank you.
I also believe in choice except that you had no choice in your parents, your time and place of birth.
The absurdity of life is this, time is unkind, there are yet to be born future murderers, rapists, etc.
Destiny is the time before you were born, fate is the ceasing of your heartbeat.
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LloydAsher
I seperate marriage into two categories, institutional and religious.
Institutional involves the standard legal system including a mixed finances system and official name changes. It also registers the household as a family. This is what I believe gay marriage has so leeway in since it's about financials and legal responsibilities.
Religious is all about the church that does the non governmental work including the wedding and spiritual vows. This sect is allowed in my view to disclude any pairing they want.
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Tealights
Marriage is a legally binding contract, nothing more. Signing this contract means you found someone you can form a trusted partnership with.
Personally, I think I found that person, so I will be getting married someday. However, he and I aren't in any rush since we both agreed that our love doesn't need a piece of paper; and that marriage is more for legal reasons such as owning property or starting a business together.
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LloydAsher
What about the religious institutions? It's the second half to marriage all the non binding contract goodness (unless its religious then that's a contract you sign with God.)
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Tealights
Religion adopted the practice. Marriage was originally used to unitify families and countries, like forming a treaty.
I'm agnostic and he is atheist, so to us, marriage is simply a huge party to celebrate our love as well as legally bind us together. Because of our views and out of respect, we wont have it in a church, but personally I want a garden wedding.
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shoka2322
I don't want certain people married. However, I want to get married. If my best friend or brother leave me for a spouse, my life is as good as over.
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