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What I mean is, say I'm walking towards an exit door for example and I get to the door at the same time as a female (me being a male) and we both hesitate, if I opt to walk through before her is that ungentlemanly-like or are we past that in this female empowered age?
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You just have to read the situation and act in the polite manner which is appropriate, it has nothing to do with chivalry really.
I think most people only expect that you don't let the door slam on them. Who goes first should be whatever is most convenient...least awkward...and doesn't hold up traffic.
In your example, exiting a building- usually the door opens outward so it might be awkward/difficult to hold the door and let someone pass. I'd open the door, walk out and keep the door open until the other person either takes over or passes through. If you're entering through a door that pulls out...open it and step aside and let the person through since that tends to be less awkward than trying to hold the door open behind you...unless there is a lot of traffic, in that case it's probably best to keep moving. Just use common sense.
One exception I can think of is if you're in a social situation/social circle where 'proper etiquette' is expected.
Has anyone else noticed that if you try being polite or to help a woman they instantly think you're hitting on them (or gay).
Depends on the situation
I'll hold the door open and/or help a man or woman lift a pram onto the bus if it looks like they're struggling. Politeness and all that jazz.
One thing I do think is though, unless you're either pregnant, very old or disabled, you are standing on the bus if I'm already sitting down when you get on. You wanted "equality" and "equality" is what you're going to get, even when it's not in your favour.
From experience, women like a bit of both, so I always hold a door open for a woman and when she walks through I call her a slut.
I would hope that "chivalry" has been replaced by all humans being respectful of others regardless of gender. The first person at the door can hold it open for the next person or help someone with a baby in a pram and so on, what's the big deal? Just common sense and good manners.