Do we say anything, or no?

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My gf and I are in a quandary. Saturday night I was hanging with friends and went outside for a smoke. I happened to see a girl I know and another guy out by his car kissing. Not just a peck on the cheek. This was a full face kiss with hands on butts. Problem is the girl is one of my good friend's (not best friend) girlfriend and a good friend of my gf. And the other guy hangs with our group, but isn't dating anyone I know of. Then yesterday, I was in the next town over on a job site for work and stopped by a restaurant to grab some carryout before driving home. I had just parked and there's the same two walking in holding hands. I just left for home.

I told my gf and she was shocked. Saying the she thought they were serious having dated over a year and talking about moving in together. And we know those two are still together because they were all lovey dovey over at another friends place Sunday. The guy getting messed around on is her friend too and we both feel bad for him. Neither of us are quite sure what to do tho because we've heard bad stories about what happens when you come between a couple. Should we say anything and if so what and to who? Or just butt out???

Have your gf talk to the girl about it 4
Something else 5
Stay the hell out of it! 7
Tell the guy friend what you saw his gf doing 15
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  • CozmoWank
    5 years ago

    Tell the guy his so-called girlfriend is two timing him. You aren't much of a friend if you let him be the last to know about her. She should break things off with him before seeing someone else. And they other guy isn't very trustworthy if he messes around with another friends girlfriend.

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  • curious-bunny
    5 years ago

    I would tell both the guy and the girl. Someone will get hurt yes but in the end it's better for them yo know than to get more serious with a piece of shit. No one wants yo date a turd

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  • JD777
    5 years ago

    That’s tough, but I think you got to tell him. First, make DAMN sure you’re right, then ask him how things are going with her, and if he says they’re still good, tell him you wondered because you saw her with someone else. Ask him not to tell her you told him. If he’s a good friend he’ll protect you from her wrath.

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  • IrishPotato
    5 years ago

    Tell the guy. He deserves to know and cheaters are trash.

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  • Whatintarnation
    5 years ago

    Tell the guy. Cheaters suck.

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    • RoseIsabella
      5 years ago

      I think it would be better if they could tell the guy anonymously.

      I have snitched on cheaters before, because I totally hate cheaters, but the thing is sometimes when you tell on the stupid cheater the person who is being cheated on will makeup with, and forgive the stupid cheater, and then they both end up hating the person who snitched.

      It sucks, but it happens all the time!

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  • Boojum
    5 years ago

    Always difficult.

    I think my response to a situation like this would be to consider which of the two is my closest friend. If you wouldn't be gutted to lose either of them as friends, then stand back and pretend you know nothing. If you would be upset if the guy found out you knew and said nothing to him and he therefore refused to have anything more to do with you, then have a little talk with him. If your girlfriend would be sorry to lose the unfaithful girl as a friend, then keep quiet.

    It's an unpleasant (although fascinating in a horrible way) situation to watch unfold, but the safest option is to pretend you've seen nothing and prepare to lie your face off and be sympathetic when it all blows up. From the sounds of it, the two aren't trying too hard to keep it on the down-low, so the guy is bound to find out sooner or later.

    I see nothing to be gained by anyone saying anything to the cheating girlfriend. She's presumably an adult, so she has the right to make her choices, and she has to live with herself and the consequences.

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  • jethro
    5 years ago

    I would confront the cheating girl and tell her that she has 24 hours to confess to her boyfriend that she is cheating on him or you are going to burn her to her boyfriend and then he will just simply dump her for the slime that she is.

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  • 309uf2o38yf
    5 years ago

    Reads "...are in a quandary"
    Thinks "r/thathappened"

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  • Iszzy123
    5 years ago

    I saw go to him and recorded you telling him about what you say and say it’s not right. So if he goes and twist the story you have evedince

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  • Columbusbiguy
    5 years ago

    Stay out of it. Although you think you know these folks really well, you do not know what type of arrangement they have together. Perhaps they are in an open relationship as long as it is discretely done. Cheating is wrong but so is inserting yourself into other people's business.

    But if you absolutely must get involved, confront the cheater with what you witnessed and tell them that you Don not appreciate them fooling around. Give the cheater the ability to handle the situation themselves. It may not stop them, but it may keep it out of the public eye again.

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  • nikkiclaire
    5 years ago

    Stay out of it. Nothing good will come from you getting involved.

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