Do most bi sexual people stay in the closet ?

There's a stigmatization against bi people that's even held by some in the gay community.

I don't know if it's quite the same as being "in the closet" if you're already in a relationship, there's no particular need to advertise the fact that you're attracted to the other gender as well.

I think that, with men, there are three types of guys who might identify as bisexual.

First, there are the straight guys with a mind open sexually to anything that walks. Basically, they want to dominate other men because it makes them feel even more manly. This type will never have romantic feelings toward men and is even disturbed by the thought of it. Technically, they "are" bisexual, just not "biromantic", but to me, this is still a straight dude. For this type, it's less about "man" or "woman" and more about the sex. Sex itself, gender removed, is arousing to them.

Secondly, you get the gay guy who feels like coming out as "bi" will soften the blow and make people see him as more "normal".

The rarest type of bi, who I sometimes doubt the existence of, are the guys who actually find members of both sexes relatively equally attractive and could fall in love with either gender. This type would probably go through "phases" of being attracted to one gender more, and would usually not be able to find both genders attractive at the same time. Because the sexes are so physically different, it'd be very unusual for someone at any moment in time to be equally aroused by one male and one female in the same sexual situation. So my theory on why you don't meet as many bisexual people is that it's probably mostly BS, and if it exists, it's really rare. Most people are just straight or gay.

I used to wonder if I was a sort of fourth type of bisexual, but I ended up figuring that I was just not a douchebag and was open-minded in a non-sexual way. I can see that some men are beautiful and I can feel affectionate toward male friends, but in general I don't find men arousing or romantically enticing. I think straight men who say they can't tell which guys are the good looking ones are spouting BS because they're insecure and don't want to be seen as anything but red-blooded male. Some men are just born more "macho" and it's completely separate from sexuality and more to do with gender roles and personal/societal identity.

Just my current opinion, though. It may change by tomorrow.

I think that many people are afraid to admit that they find the same sex attractive or that maybe they fantasize about same sex. Idk I don't feel I would ever want to be with a women in a relationship.... But, I find women attractive and there have been moments when I find myself thinking hhhhhmmmm... I wonder what it's like???? So I guess maybe people are afraid to be judged for being curious....

Sorry if this didn't ma sense..

Of course, many bisexuals are in a relationship with an opposite sex partner, so that's a factor. And then again, many, if not most of the others are in the closet or at least don't talk too much about it. You'd be surprised how many people you know probably are bisexual, chances are you are in close contact with a good dozen of bisexual people, you just don't know about their bisexuality.

I agree with what Couman said but there are other reasons I don't advertise it. Too many people think bisexual people can't be in monogamous relationships and it's incredibly frustrating. I also don't particularly like labelling myself.

I had a friend who was bisexual, she was out when she was away living in the big city, but not when she came back to her hometown to visit. If her then-gf came along with her, she was introduced as "a friend."

In my real life I have 3 out bisexual friends (2 girls, 1 boy) not including myself, and one out pansexual friend. I only have two out gay friends. I suppose it's the luck of who you meet.