Do men have emotions?

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I don't have many male friends that I could ask this to without receiving a "....what kind of a question is that??" answer. I have always wondered, do men actually have emotions? SOMETHING to drive them other than the promise of sex? From what I take from the internet, no. Sex is the only objective. And for a long time, I just accepted this answer, without question.
But one day I thought, "Hey, I read Catcher in the Rye once!" I remember Holden Caulfield thinking about how if he dates a girl he wants to be nice to her, like her for her beauty and her personality, and not just want sex from her. He, at one point, denied sex from a prostitute, because he felt more comfortable to get to know her first. And most of all, he would talk about great emotions that he had/didn't want/wanted to feel (trust me, he was a confused guy), and a need to connect and be conscious of powerful things, something grand, something he could barely comprehend! These were the kinds of things I never hear guys talk about (which is understandable, it's not exactly everyday conversation). So, I searched for it, and found an article (in Men's magazine) about men's 'guilty pleasures'. If guys' were gonna talk about this anywhere on the internet, it would be here, because they might discuss things like chick magazines that they secretly read when the chance comes along to see what women think about, and sometimes (sometimes) they agree with some of that romantic stuff.
Apparently, guys secret love of chick magazines stems from all the cleavage the models shown in them.
And the front cover is "just as good as a playboy magazine, if you know what I mean."
... I find this extremely depressing. Am I going to have to marry a man that just wants me for occasional sex, but other than that I guess we just share a house?
Am I doomed to have my emotional and philosophical outlet unrequited by my lover? I don't know if it is possible to bare living the rest of my life knowing the psychological isolation that awaits me! So, this website is my last hope. Don't let me think I'm the only one to ponder these uncertainties.

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    Of course. I wouldn't take those magazines to heart. My ex never wanted to have sex. He preferred the idea of waiting till marriage. He was 24 when I started dating him. My dad was so annoying he'd always ask me about it and I'd say no and he'd ask "Is he gay? (No.) Are you sure?"

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    • DannyKanes
      11 years ago

      That made me lol. Normally Dad's are the opposite of that :)

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      • [Old Memory]
        11 years ago

        He has no shame. He always ends the conversation with "You know the rule. (Yeeees. -_-) What is it? (I'm not gonna say it.￢_￢) Condoms. Condoms. Condoms."

        Then I'd say we don't and he'd say "Whaaaaat!? You sure he's not into guys? Oooookay."

        Thinking about it he really is odd, likes to make things awkward. Lol.

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  • dom180
    11 years ago

    You're thinking about things in black and white. Men, generally, care about sex and about romance. Women, generally, care about sex and about romance. The degrees at which this is so differ from man-to-man and from woman-to-woman, but gender is not a determiner as to what an individual cares about in a relationship.

    In the same way that, I would imagine, the vast majority of women care about sex as well as emotional link in a relationship, the vast majority of men care about emotional link as well as sex in a relationship. It's usually as easy to spot the men who only care about sex as it is to spot the women who only care about sex, i.e. incredibly easy.

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  • kelili
    11 years ago

    It's obvious that the answer is YES! Human beings have emotions and it's one of the traits that differentiate us from most animals.

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    • [Old Memory]
      11 years ago

      your heartfelt story about your aunt who died proves that men certainly do have feelings

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      • kelili
        11 years ago

        I'm a girl:) I really don't know what to say else. I love her so much

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        • [Old Memory]
          11 years ago

          oh pardon i looked at yr profile pic and the shaved hair and thought you were male

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          • kelili
            11 years ago

            It's my pic. No big deal;)

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  • iEatZombies_
    11 years ago

    Men and women both feel. They also respond to incentives. Sex is a strong incentive to men, romance is a strong incentive to women. Women are looking to get just as much out of men as men are women. Sex is as much an emotional need as romance.
    You're asking yourself, when you look for a romantic partner, what they can do for you. How can they make you feel good, make you laugh, make you safe. We all feel, we all want things out of the people we love, and we all feel closer when our expectations are met.
    Point is, you may not like the incentive you see, but it's no better or worse than your own. Just different. Different incentive, same emotional result.

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  • Pisslan616
    11 years ago

    I know society seems to look down on men that show emotions but I can promise you that we do have them.

    I wish I didn't some times, but I do. I can only speak for myself but I honestly don't expect to get sex at all. Due to my cripplingly low self confidence sex is out of the question for me so it can hardly be my soul motivating factor.

    I admit, guys who seem to think only about their dicks and who they can put it in do exist. But for every one of these I'm sure there is a quiet thoughtful guy hidden away in the background trying awkwardly not to draw attention to himself.

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  • drugsrbadmkay
    11 years ago

    As a man myself I can tell you YES we do have emotions. They are: Hungry, Horny, and Pissed Off. Usually only one at a time.

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  • dirtybirdy
    11 years ago

    Of course they do. Are you only concerned about them having the ones that your "dream guy' has?

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  • ccjigsaw
    11 years ago

    Men have feelings. People on IIN are very misleading. Everyone on here puts sex on a pedistal, you won't get alot of real answers here. I know where you're coming from though. I have alot of male friends, I'm one of the guys with some of them, they really get you to wondering if they actually care about anything else xP I know men with big hearts to though. I think you'll find as you grow older and meet older men, you will see a significant change.

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  • charli.m
    11 years ago

    Wow. Just wow.

    Ofc they have emotions. Society has deemed that it is not acceptable for men to show said emotions, or be seen as 'gay'. Fuckin' shits me.

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  • dom180
    11 years ago

    Shit guys, the women are onto us! WHO TOLD THEM???

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  • Rondan
    11 years ago

    I a guy yes we do. When my ex girl took off on are baby and I that hurt and piss me off and made me want her to suffer

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