Do men have affection?

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I started dating this guy about 1 month ago. I've been noticing that he shows no affection torwards me. If we hang out all day he won't kiss or hug me until the end of the night, literally, unless I had approached him first. I don't expect or want him to smother me but I don't want to feel like a nobody either. He tells me he likes me and wants to be with me and he knows he's not affectionate and he's not perfect, but that's how he is. I'm an attractive girl also, eye candy. I'm not in love with him. It feels to me like he is putting up a wall to not fall in love with me. There is an age difference I'm 21 and he is 35.
I'm confused, it makes me think he could still be in love with a past gf. I know he used to date someone for 10 years, they been broken up for 3 years. I remember him speaking about his old relationship quite a few times and then he calls me by his ex's name 2 times. Why would he do that he must still care or love her maybe he's still in love with her. I just wish I knew because I do like him but I'm not going to put up with someone like that especially being young and beautiful. I don't want to waste my time.

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Based on 65 votes (30 yes)
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Comments ( 12 )
  • dom180
    11 years ago

    Why are you going out with him if you're so "young and beautiful"? He must have some redeeming features or you would never be with him in the first place. Think about them.

    There's no reason to presume he's still in love with an ex. He might just be having trouble adjusting; that doesn't mean he still loves her or that he doesn't care about you. If he's been out of the game for 3 years he might not be used to giving affection and it will take him some time.

    The bottom line is that if you care about him enough then you'll wait for a while longer and see how it goes, and if you don't (and there's nothing wrong with that) then you can leave and enjoy being your young, beautiful self.

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  • Terence_the_viking
    11 years ago

    I always initiate the hugs i love my wifes hugs they are so huggy uggy soft nice smelling potatoes.

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    • X0ticl0v3
      11 years ago

      That is really cute lol.

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  • SeverusFan23
    11 years ago

    Leave him if it's not going the way you plan.

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  • Thatguy777
    11 years ago

    This relationship doesn't seen like it's really going anywhere. I'm not saying you should break up, but you could probably find a better relationship with someone closer to your age, that hasn't been in a relationship with someone for a very long time. Also, it kind of pisses me off when women say that men aren't affectionate. Just because you know a few guys that aren't affectionate, doesn't mean that none of us are.

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  • Koda
    8 years ago

    I can't speak for anyone else, but I consider myself overly affectionate if anything. I often have to subdue my urges to be affectionate/touch other people, as I know it's not socially acceptable to be so touchy-feely. I love massages, hugs, etc. If I'm fond of someone, I want to let them know physically, by touching his/her shoulder/arm or something benign like that, but I never do so until I'm sure they're not insane over personal space invasion.

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  • ToxicCrayons
    10 years ago

    He isn't in it for the same reasons you are and you both have different expectations and ideas about how a relationship should be. You're both wasting your time.

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  • MeenMevor
    11 years ago

    Some men just aren't touchy-feely. Especially older men. You need to sit him down and talk to HIM about these issues, not us.

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  • nursebetty
    11 years ago

    I'm glad my man shows me affection! It wouldn't work for me if he didn't. Some men do and some men don't, if it bothers you then talk to him about it, if he won't talk about it then decide if its something you can live without, if not then leave him and if yes then stay and put up with it

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  • Shakethatsaltshakerx3
    11 years ago

    You're*

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  • Shakethatsaltshakerx3
    11 years ago

    Everyone's questioning you saying your eye candy as if this has anything to do with looks.. He called you by his exes name.. Twice?! Omg. Tell him you just want to be friends and be glad he didn't take advantage of you! Hope I helped I know relationships are way too complicated to sum up in a paragraph!

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  • mysterymen3000
    11 years ago

    If you're really "eye candy" then he would kiss you. Time for a reality check, sweet heart!!?

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