Do i tell them anything about my online dating or not; and why?

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I was in a relationship with someone and we decided to take a break from each other at the end of August.
They're currently teaching English to kids in China and they said we could date whoever we liked if we wanted to.

I wanted to see what life was like away from a long-term relationship (3 years) and basically leapt headfirst into online dating.

My excuse for the boasting below is that I'm unemployed and thus have plenty of time to pursue this sort of thing, but anyway.

WARNING: UNINTENDED BOASTING ALERT.
In 3 weeks, I've met with 2 people IRL - one for sex and nothing more and one for a pub crawl (and definitely more meeting up in the future); got 2 womens' MSN addresses, about 3-6 mens' phone numbers and messaged/IMed with 70-80 people./BOASTING

The other person knows nothing of the fact that I've gone in so quickly and they know I've cheated on them once previously (I told them a few months ago after I managed to keep it a secret for nearly 2 years) and my first serious relationship (the one before this).

I have no idea how to broach the subject of dating with them, if at all.
They're more monogamous and sex, love and emotions are a far bigger deal to them than me.
Having just come out of a very good relationship with them, I don't want another actual relationship for a while - if indeed ever - and certainly nothing monogamous.

I'll be called - or at least thought of as - a heartless bitch and a slut either way, so.... :/ ... which is the lesser of two evils?

Is there anyone else who has been in a vaguely similar situation?

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  • ccjigsaw
    11 years ago

    Don't date that person you had a long term relationship with again please. You and that person have very different values and you would only end up hurting them. It sounds like you don't want to be in a relationship, so just don't include that person in your life and go do what you want. They deserve to find soemone with the same values, and you have every right to go out and do your thing.

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  • Imposturously_yours
    11 years ago

    It's about as bad as boasting your unintended std's.

    I'm trying my best not to judge people, but you are a slut.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      11 years ago

      I can't help it if that's how many people get in touch with me.

      Also, what quantifies a slut in your eyes?

      Does aving sex with 6 people overall - including one nonconsensual incident and two who I was in long-term relationships with - count?
      Does having thoughts about sex count?
      Does even admitting to being a female who dares to having a sexuality count?

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  • chinese
    11 years ago

    tell person to come work my restraunt here in china and i will pay for sex

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