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ok well im 19. and my bf just recently just asked me to marry him... i just froze and i didn't know what to say we have been dateing for almost a year now but i do not know if i am ready to be engaged let alone get MARRIED!!!(deep sigh) help.... please!!!!
19 is really young. I am not saying that it is too young, but these days 50%% of marriages fail. I have seen a lot of relationships and marriages fail in my lifetime and I would hate to see anyone else go through it. I would suggest giving it more time. If he really loves you (which he does) he will respect your willingness to wait. Take this time to build a solid foundation with your bf. When you are ready, consider marriage counseling with a church leader. You will be amazed at some of the things you can work out before getting married. There are so many issues you should deal with before getting married. Plus the longer you wait, the more time you have to plan the perfect wedding. You only get married once (or hope to) so do it right! Good luck and God bless.
if he was the right guy you wouldn't of asked us for help, don't do it wait for a while you're not ready and yes you'll hurt his feelings by telling him but in the long run he should respect you even more for your honesty but be tactful..
And at 19, like others have said, you will grow SO MUCH in the next few years. Give yourself a chance to maybe see more of the world, find out who you "really" are, and don't rush things.
Advice I didn't take, and they were all right!
Because if you question it that much, it is not meant to happen! Life goes on, dearie, seize it by the ears and follow it!!!
If you have to stop to ask, and even ASK PEOPLE ON THE NET, then YOU DON'T WANT TO MARRY HIM.
Don't let anyone guilt you into it, either. Better to live with roommates, etc. and figure your life out, than to suffer a bad marriage.
NOOOOOO Don't say yes!!!! Hahaha just joking, but honestly like they all said, if you have to ask yourself, then you don't want to.
I am a completely different person now than I was at 19, which was 7 years ago. By completely different I mean 80%% not the same person at all. You have not even begun to find yourself, trust me. I can't even explain what a bad idea it is to get married so young. Sometimes it works out for people and that's awesome for them, but if you're unsure, do not do it. If he loves you, he will wait.
19 is waaaay too young. You will be surprised how much you change and grow over the next few years. Especially if you have lived a very sheltered life. You guys don't have break up but don't getting married. I met my husband when we were 18, married him at 23 and have been married for almost eight years. I don't think we would have made it if we had married at 19 though.
You can always break off the engagement. though just a year seems early. Say not yet, in my opinion. Don't let it hang over you either. Just say "I love that you asked, but I don't feel ready, can we wait a couple years? If it feels like too long of a time, then how long would the marriage last?"
Sweety,
Go look up TOM LEYKIS and listen to him before you destroy your life.
And ask yourself this,
Does he have a career? Not a Mc donalds job.
Can he provide a stable place to live that is good enough for you and any kids yall may have?
After a year with him, do you know what type of person and what type of father he really would be to your kids.
These are just a few things you need to ask yourself.
Also, If he really loves you, He will wait and take this time to make sure these things are in place before marrying you.
Marry him now and get a $100 wedding or marry him when the time is right and have a real wedding and your own place to go home to after the honeymoon.
Old school.
There are still girls out there who get married young and they have children at 21.
My mom got married at 16 years old and had first child at 17.
So you're no too young I assure you..
Point 1 If you even have to as this question then your not ready
Point 2 You are only 19 you havent lived enough yourself yet. Is there something you really want to do in life like travel somewhere. Dont think youll be able to do what you want when your married because you wont. you are definately too young for marriage and I suspect your BF is too