Do i have daddy issues?

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So to start off, my dad has never done anything inappropriate with me in any way, hes never touched me badly or anything. He s always been a good dad. But once I was about 11 I started to get snappy with him, I wanted my space from him. I always grew up as daddy s little girl and I was sick of it. He took this really hard and was really upset by it. I eventually stopped being do snappy towards him and became nicer again. But one thing had changed and it s been going on for years now (I m 18 now), he always stares at me. Even when we re at dinner ill catch him staring at me, no matter where we re at I ll always catch him looking at me. It s not in an inappropriate way, he just stares. And like he always takes my side on everything and always wants to hang out with me and be around me it seems. Sometimes I feel like hes smothering me. I love my dad, I do and I m not trying to accuse him of anything, hes never done anything bad to me, it s just sometimes he makes me feel uncomfortable. Also, sometimes it s like he doesn t even know my mom exists and he often sides with me over her. Through the years, I ve found myself attracted to older men, I don t know why. I just get so nervous and uncomfortable say around my friend s dad or any type of older guy. I even kind of find myself attracted to my crush s dad right now at the moment. I don t know why, I just do. And my parents aren t divorced or anything nor do they ever plan to. I ve never been attracted to my dad either. Someone also told me that I should talk to my mom about this and I do but she just brushed it off and this one time she was like "I think he's just lonely." Another time he went out and had some alcohol in him and started commenting on my Facebook statuses and then I texted him telling him to please stop commenting and he started saying all this stuff like "I love you" a lot. Also my grandfather died back in 2005 and he was like "my father died too soon." Which I felt bad about...I just don't know what to make of all of this and it does make me upset and uncomfortable...is this normal?

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  • omghiwhat
    8 years ago

    I would say he just loves you a lot in the fatherly way and if he stares at you that much, its because he probably admires what a beautiful human being you've grown up to be. I'm taking psychology right now and from what i see it sounds like a case of transference where you're unconsciously putting your own desires and thoughts onto someone else. like the example where you like older men therefore you feel that older men may feel the same way as well (which usually is not always the case as you mentally just believe that)

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  • KingTermite
    8 years ago

    Sounds like every other dysfunctional family.

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  • BeanKonfused
    8 years ago

    survival , as humans, any kind of trauma our mid-brains, (bit of the brain that deals with survival) cannot process, for whatever reason, will bury until it feels ready. problem is we can often come to subconciosly believe our existance to date, has been as a result of having burried this. and so throwing doubt as to whether or not ur concious mind, could cope?! we as h/b tend to default to safety mode b/c that is all we have ever known. its normal.:) ur attraction towards older men could well be ur sub-concious trying to 'drip-feed' ur concious mind in a way, in chunks which it feels are more managable for u! telling u there is something we'you', need to deal with'! in surviving, ur mind has taken something that has caused u grat pain or trauma, and then turns it into something pleasurable sos as to help and aid heathly emotioal development . quite amazing bit of kit, the humain mind really.

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  • Cathiann44DD
    8 years ago

    When I was 9 my daddy put his penis in my mouth and ejaculated in his daughter mouth...his sperm was weird lol

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    • Scouselad
      1 year ago

      You made him you probably tease him so much I’ve had to hold back from my step daughter a few times when she’s in her towel or riding the couch arm looks at me or the worst sleeping in my room between me and her mom and grabbing my cock or walking in on me wankin or shout me in crawling on the bed on 4s it’s really bad she’s 19 now it started at 18 really bad

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    • Nawtydaddy
      7 years ago

      thats hot

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    • klebo
      8 years ago

      Please cum talk to me

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    • klebo
      8 years ago

      Hi,I seen you come onto the chat area once and one of the idiots there.....I think scared you away,I would like to chat with you,your name sounds interesting

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  • klebo
    8 years ago

    One way I know is that he is not getting attention from his wife. .... I was the exact way with my EX,I wasn't getting the love and support from her not to mention not getting the sex either, and of coarse the stepdaughter and I spent more time together and share deep things with one another and I saw her as someone I was falling in love with and wanted to share an intimate relationship with her, are you able to talk to your dad one on one and ask him if he has more feelings for you then a daughter ? just because you don't find him attractive doesn't mean that he doesn't find you attractive physical appearance doesn't always matter when you're getting the emotional needs met and he is looking to you for your emotional needs and possibly physical

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    • allis1234
      8 years ago

      also my attraction to older men started when I was 11, around the same time all of this began to start as well.

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    • allis1234
      8 years ago

      You nailed the fact that he looks for things in me that he should not be looking for in a daughter. He almost treats me like I'm his wife sometimes. He's never done anything sexual or inappropriate to me, but it still makes me beyond uncomfortable. He claims that I'm his daughter and that I should want to do all that stuff but I just don't like it. I have no feelings for him beyond a dad. If I confront him he gets mad and dismisses it. He gives my mom absolutely no personal attention sometimes. I feel so bad. I want them to be in love like other parents are. I never liked the attention I've received from him. It always felt so gross and wrong to me. But also, would you be willing to explain why I have an attraction for older men now? Like I'll get really uncomfortable around a grown man and sometimes feel attracted to him? Like I really like this one guy's dad. What's going on? I just want an answer to all this.

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      • klebo
        8 years ago

        Hi,just wondering how things are going for you?

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        • allis1234
          8 years ago

          things are ok...thank you.

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          • klebo
            8 years ago

            Did you talk to your dad? How is his attitude towards you?

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      • klebo
        8 years ago

        I am sorry I think I have upset you with my comments I do care please let me know what happens

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      • klebo
        8 years ago

        I can see how he is attracted to you.......you sound adorable and sound caring and sweet, I can tell in your story how yow don't want to hurt his feelings, I have had you on my mind through the day and keep checking to see if you wrote something more hoping to see something I have a snap chat account if you want to chat on there if it's easier, I would like to let you see a picture of me so you know who you are talking to

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      • klebo
        8 years ago

        I am sorry you are going through this with your dad!!!!! Not that is ok but realize he is probably lonely and looking in the wrong spot for a companion, you are not the one that can fulfill this for him,I would suggest (be hard I know) sit down with him and tell him what he needs is to be happy and obviously he isn't with your mom he needs to find someone he can go do things with,and this isn't you, there are NEEDS in his life that he isn't getting and he needs to find someone that can do that for him,especially sex and like you said you are not attracted to him so that is never going to happen, he probably watch some daddy daughter porn (which has become very popular ) and thinks maybe he can with you (just guessing ) again sorry to hear about all you are going through

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      • klebo
        8 years ago

        I am going to take a guess at this older man thing......I am guessing since you haven't had that dad bonding (I get he is good to you,but you do feel grossed out about him coming on to you )so I am guessing the older guy will give you that comfort and protected feeling, also older men know what a woman wants especially sexually, I mean a boy can't lick you and make you come like someone older,we tend to listen to what a woman wants and how her body moves when she is touched a certain way not only sexual do we listen but in general as well,being able to talk to someone and share your fantasy and how you want to be touched is easy with a older man its hard sharing those things with someone young and not feel embarrassed, what things turn you on or fantasize when you are around older men,what gets you wet down there when you see them?

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        • kittycatrelle
          8 years ago

          Wow are you a parent? Your advice is sound and insightful. I would seriously like your feed back on my only two posts, if you could spare the time, please. Cheers.

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          • klebo
            8 years ago

            I am thinking about leaving this site,are you wanting to chat about some issues?I was wondering? Like to help if I can,please let me know ASAP

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          • klebo
            8 years ago

            Are you messing with me? I think you are,but even so I would like to chat with you even about other things

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          • klebo
            8 years ago

            I would love to which ones are you talking about? You can visit me on snapchat also noski8, easier talking to you on there,but otherwise I would love to share and help what you are going through

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  • klebo
    8 years ago

    I am going to say this bluntly. ...... he finds you sexually attractive, maybe you need to sit down with him and talk about your uncomfortable with him watching you and be straight up and ask him if it's a sexual thing,he might be honest and admit it, chances are he doesn't want to hurt you and admit it, this sounds like a lot of things I did with my EX stepdaughter (I found her sexy),do I am not sure if you find your dad attractive? And of he does admit he has sexual thoughts how you will reply back to him,so just be ready to answer them, good luck, I am here if you want to talk more

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    • allis1234
      8 years ago

      and let me add that I have never been attracted to my dad....just the thought of him and anything sexual honestly makes me want to vomit.

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    • allis1234
      8 years ago

      Ew what the hell? Are you serious? I'm his biological daughter and whenever I try to talk to him about it he gets mad. Are you sure? He pays little attention to my mom (they don't even sleep in the same bed anymore). It's just uncomfortable for me. From what I wrote, how do you know that he finds me sexually attractive?

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      • Guy_No1
        2 years ago

        I know it's been a long time since you posted on here, i was just wondering if you ever managed to get past that situation with your dad. And if you ever found your older man? Xx

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  • dallas22
    8 years ago

    I am looking for someone that ejoys crazy , freaky , nasty , dirty , disgusting erotic fetishes , such as two that everday people would not think about , such as bathroom fun and bodily functions and whatever else you can think of , if you catch my drift.
    I am flexible in my likings.

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  • Treklover11376
    8 years ago

    Sounds like he just loves you a lot. I have 1 child a 16 yo daughter and she is my world.

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