Do i have any chance of ever getting a girlfriend?

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Positives:

1) I'm honest and loyal. I never lie to people, I never betray them, I just tell it like it is and stay true to the people I care about.

2) I'm intelligent and funny. I don't mean to brag, but the fact that I'm very smart is undeniable and everyone I know agrees. Most people I know seem to laugh at a lot of the things I say.

3) I'm modest. Contrary to my previous statement, I almost never brag. In fact, I almost never say anything good about myself at all.

4) I have genuine interests. There are things I enjoy doing, like writing, that are actually constructive and that I'm actually passionate about.

5) I'm not that bad looking. Okay, I'm no model, but I'm not exactly ugly, either.

Negatives:

1) I'm kind of emotional. I never cry or anything like that, I just have a bit of a short fuse sometimes and while I'm talking about something I care about, I can get heated pretty easily.

2) I'm neurotic. Fear of rejection? Check. Fear of talking to women that I'm mildly attracted to? Checkmate.

3) I'm shy around people I don't know very well. Don't worry, though - once you get to know me, I'll never shut up.

4) I'm afraid of sex. Don't get me wrong, I really want to do it, it's just that it really, really scares me.

5) I lack confidence. This is probably my biggest problem. Whenever I see a woman that I kind of like, I assume that she'll never like me in a million years and therefore, I'm afraid of talking to her.

So, do you think I have a chance?

YES!!! You sound like the type of guy that girls love!!! 13
You WILL get a girlfriend if you work on being more confident. 35
If you learn how to talk to girls, you have a 50/50 chance. 12
It's doubtful, but you might get lucky. 7
NO!!! You have no hope whatsoever!!! 9
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  • thegypsysailor
    9 years ago | pl

    If you frequent bars and clubs, you will probably not have much luck.
    Try volunteering at a homeless or animal shelter or getting involved in community projects. Offer to help underprivileged children or the elderly. Join clubs and begin activities where there are girls. If you can spend time with girls with similar interests to yours, you can meet a girl that should find you interesting.
    Sitting home on the computer will not be advantageous to meeting girls.

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  • kingofcarrotflowers
    9 years ago

    Yep, you do

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  • disthing
    9 years ago

    There's really no point in making a pros and cons list - that's not how attraction works. You can guarantee any prospective girlfriend is not mentally assessing your positive traits versus your negative in order to decide whether or not you're attractive - just as you don't assess them in that way. Either it clicks or it doesn't.

    Anyway, unless you're a truly repugnant person, you have a chance. You can improve your chances by being in regular social situations where there are girls, meeting new people often, being open and engaging and be willing to make the first move. Also you can use the internet to your advantage, since millions of singletons find it easier to meet people first online. That can help if you're shy, as you feel a little less exposed, a little more in control :)

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  • reminiscent
    9 years ago

    Confidence is key

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  • scullyfbi
    9 years ago

    Go and be around places where there are women (girls) who want a "boyfriend". Don't try to hard. Just go do things that you like to do at places you like. Here you will meet people like you. Some will hang out with you eventually. Some will become friends, some who know you then may be interested further.

    That is not actually bars or dance clubs. While few admit it, that is where people go to find sex. Even if they don't follow through on it, (self denial about what is happening there?) that is what the whole environment and behavior is about. If you are not experienced or as you say scared of sex then that is definitely not going to work for you for finding a girlfriend. Unless someone "finds you".

    You actually may really find honest opposite sex interest in the appropriate online dating site. You know the ones that advertise on television, not most which are also another way to find sex partners (first priority for many of them).

    You say up front you are looking for friendship and relationship and only correspond with the same.

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  • pastor_of_muppets
    9 years ago

    Women don't care about anything on your negatives list, most of them will probably think it is cute. What they do care about is confidence.

    So I will tell you what that russian girl in that club told me when I was younger: "eyes up"

    Don't look down. Never look down. Stop looking down. Hey look! A penny! *smacks you* DON'T look down :|

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  • slings_and_arrows
    9 years ago

    I think shyness in a man is really sexy. It makes me think he's gentle and sensitive. Also being heated and passionate is definitely attractiive.

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  • GiveMeAFuckingNameAlready!
    9 years ago

    How much you make after taxes?. That'll tell you whether or not she'll love you.

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