Do i hate my mom?

Recently I have started to dislike my mom. Maybe it's more like hate. I'm kinda introverted but I have come into my own and started to be a little more out there. My mom though is supper aggressive and unjoyful. Every single time she comes home from work she never acknowledge us and when she does she always say is your room clean, stop being lazy, etc. I get it she's a mom and trying to get us to do something. But it's every single day and when we do clean it never enough for her. She gets really mad every time the house is even a little bit messy. All she ever ask us about is our rooms and how they should be clean. Not once has she talked to me first about my friend, school or life. I feel the only thing she cares about are not even things that have anything to do with me or my sibling. Today for example she came into my room and saw that I haven't organized my school supplies. She had a major bitch fit right away. She called me lazy, disgusting,a pigs and ungrateful. At the end she started to make a mess out of my room she pushed my little side table and my lotion fell and the top opened. Immediately she said "oh you see you don't even close your lotion!" And preceded to throw the opend lotion across the room making a big mess. I got mad but I held my tounge. But she didn't stop there she started taking the sheets off my bed and threw them on top of the lotion. My brother came in the room and she decided to take her anger out on him. So she hit him in the back and told him to get the heck out of the room. This is when I stepped in and told her this wasn't right,. How could she do this? She decided to put her hand on me out of anger for talking back to her and scratched my arm. She said she could do what ever she wanted and throw all the stuff she wanted. Then she threatens to throw all my clothes in the trash because she bought them. And this is a women who constantly reminds us that there are less fortunate people out there. She doesn't tell us this in the way you think. She makes us feel bad about all the things we have and reminds us we don't deserve them. Every time she buys us close she didn't forget to say okay now what are you going to do for me. Now I'm in my room alone trying to let all these feelings out. Thankfully I found this site and I can because the truth is I don't want to hate her but it's sad that I'm even thinking about it. She doesn't make me feel good and it's suffocating.