Do i give up too easily, or iin?

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I went on a date with a girl, we went to a football match. Turns out her dad was at the same game with one of his mates. The girl and I drank quite alot of booze and after the game she took me to meet her dad and her dad's friend. I thought I did well, held myself well, I seemed to get along with her and her dad quite well.

The following weekend I wanted to see her but she said she was having a quiet weekend. Then this weekend I made plans to take her to the shooting range (she loves firing guns) which she declined, saying "I can't do this Sunday, sorry."

These are the only times we've been in contact, twice in two weeks since, both times have been me contacting her and I feel like she's blown me off both times. I'm ready to pack it in and move on. Is it normal for a guy to give up at this point or should I continue the chase?

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  • thegypsysailor
    10 years ago

    Personally, I'd let this one fall by the wayside; it appears she's lost interest in you.
    If you had as much to drink as you implied, I seriously doubt that things went as well as you think, with her dad, but that might have nothing to do with it, just an observation.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      10 years ago

      Yeah, worthy point and one that has crossed my mind. I think the alcohol did put a social lubricant on the whole experience but in the end I was still under the toughest of scrutinies, meeting the dad for the first time.
      The age gap may be a factor (I'm 29 she's 21) and she is a career driven woman, I am an aspiring artist and a bit of a drifter with jobs.

      Thank you for taking the time to comment and give your opinion. Much appreciated.

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  • mixwell
    10 years ago

    Sounds like she lost interest. If she declines twice without a counter offer to hangout another day that should speak for itself. Just leave it and if she calls then cool if not you have your answer. Actions speak louder than words.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      10 years ago

      yeah that's what I decided to do, thanks - it's reassuring to agree with someone on this :)

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  • QuestionMark?
    10 years ago

    Play it cool, still text her or whatever you do.
    It's too late to say this, but when you asked her to go to the shooting range & when she said she couldn't make it, you could've replied along the lines of "sure no problem just let me know when you are available" that way when she is available you can then make plans.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      10 years ago

      yeah true that would of been a good line to take.
      I was pretty discouraged by this point so I just replied with; no worries, some other time.

      From that point on I decided I'd cut contact. If I get word from her then it's a welcome green light otherwise I'll continue on in this crazy cat and mouse game

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  • Karmasbitch
    10 years ago

    Yeah I'd just drop it. I have been in similar situations though, no worries!

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      10 years ago

      Thank you, it's good to get outsiders opinions on this. You can get blinded by desire when you fancy a girl and over pursue a lost cause.

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      • Karmasbitch
        10 years ago

        No problem =] I have many a time gotten blinded by desire.

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  • [Old Memory]
    10 years ago

    it's her turn to ask you out

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  • ants91shearer
    10 years ago

    please don't give up, the poor whales life depends on it.

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