Do i apologize for being angry at someone who has seriously hurt me?

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Someone I loved and cared for recently wronged me and destroyed our friendship. I thought our feelings and bonds were mutual and secure, yet it seems I was the only one who valued them. I am so angry at their carelessness with my feelings and feel like I was a joke or game to them. But I still care. I don't want to be angry, but I don't know if I should feel ashamed for being angry--wouldn't that make me the same as them? That I don't value our relationship enough to forgive them? Should I apologize for giving the cold shoulder--acting a bit on my anger as a way to let them know I was hurt?

Yes. If they truly matter to you, you should forgive them immediately. 2
Yes, but only after a long time has gone by to cool down/forget. 4
No, not until they know/you've made them sorry. 6
Never. They don't deserve to have your respect anymore. 5
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  • Fall_leaves
    9 years ago

    You should elaborate as to what they did. Why would you apologize for someone else hurting you? If someone dismisses your feelings and hurts you to a degree that it's ended your trust in them and the friendship then they don't deserve you. Having self respect doesn't make you the same as them. Being angry is a normal reaction when someone disregards your feelings and hurts you, don't apologize for your feelings. I wouldn't continue a friendship with someone that's an asshole but that's your call.

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    • Fall_leaves
      9 years ago

      To add onto that, I did continue a relationship with someone that hurt me and I didn't learn my lesson until after they hurt me multiple times. Each time they apologized and begged me not to end the friendship and I didn't because I cared about them and didn't want to lose them either. Seriously if you can take anything away from my advice, you need to stand up for yourself. Stick by your word and end the friendship because there are so many more deserving people of your time and love, trust me.

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  • thegypsysailor
    9 years ago

    Life is a bit like toilet paper. you are either on a roll or you are taking shit from some asshole.
    From what you said, I don't see you as the one who has a damn thing to apologize for.

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    • anon_shit
      9 years ago

      "clap, Clap" you're an excellent man dude I can tell.

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  • LostAndBroken
    9 years ago

    It's normal to be angry like that, but be careful not to let it get to you. Hate is a big weight to carry around and it can take it's toll.
    The better way to act is complete indifference, just let them go. If someone realises you just don't give a damn, that's a much more powerful message.

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