Do girls want guys to pay for dinner or don't they?

I think whoever did the inviting should pay. Only makes sense.

Thats not right. I don't think the guy should always be the one to pay. I think you could either split the cost, or whoever did the asking out on the date, pays. But even with that I feel a little awkward not at least putting out the tip. Honestly, I always think offering would be courteous.

Depends.
If he invites ME out to dinner, I expect him to pay.
If I invite HIM out to dinner, I pay.
All other circumstances, we split the cost.
I am somewhat old fashioned in this respect, I believe that if you invite someone out, than you pay. Any other way, we go dutch unless one party insists to pay.

I would never be able to let a girl pay on the first date, but maybe after we been together for a while, then yes, its normal to share costs.

I think both should take turns, that is if they can afford it.

Whenever I go out to dinner with my boyfriend we kinda just guess who should pay. I mean, if say he paid for dinner the last time I'll pay the next time or if one of us made a lot of payments on bills etc/ are short on money then the other one of us will offer to pay. or if one of us is just in the mood to pay so I guess it's random..I should of just said random. :P

If you mean a first date I don't care...I suppose it should be whoever asked who on the date or you split it but I know some guys are old fashioned and don't like to let the girl pay.

Men who are jerks would like the woman to pay. However, a gentleman would pay for his date. This question is entirely based on the man that you are with. I think that as long as you are conscious of the price of the meal, your man will appreciate it.

Whoever is hosting the dinner should pay.
That is what I believe.

split the cost?? wut?

That old fashioned chivalry just makes you feel special. Some girls know how to accept it but for others, it's a bit harder. Some girls have their guard up and don't want a guy to make them feel that way (special) or don't know how. If a guy makes them feel special, then they'll be more vulnerable around them and slowly take down that wall.

A guy once paid for my meal without me knowing. when I went to pay and found out, I felt really flattered but half of me felt bad for accepting someone paying for my meal, since I'm not used to it.

I have no problem paying for my meal but there is just something about a guy paying for your meal that just makes you feel taken care of. It's harder to keep them at a distance, easier to think that maybe they are a decent guy who actually likes you.

just don't pay for a girls meal if they are just gold diggers lol

It depends on the girl. I prefer the guy to be himself so I know from the beginning to run or not. I want to know what the guy wants to do before I tell him what I want. What I want is a guy to pay for the date no matter what. If a guy doesn't want to pay or wants a girl to do 50/50 then I don't want to be with him at all. I want a provider, I want a guy to spoil me. The reason I want that is because thats how I feel guys show their love to me. I am the type of girl who is okay with having a job and handling my own but I would love a man who would still love to spoil me even tho I am independent. I guess it was due to how I was raised. The men in my life never really got me anything or cared enough to pay attention to what I like so it would mean the world to me if I dated a guy who was giving. I hate romantic sappy movies, I think they r so gross but I think I would cry if something so romantic like that would ever happen to me. Just becuz a girl wants u to spoil her doesn't mean she is lazy or a gold digger. It is sometimes deeper rooted then that.

It's the man job to pay for the dinner but other women these days, might want to pay for their own dinner.

I always offer to pay myself, and see if she offers to split the bill. Most girls do, fortunately. I'm not saying it's fair that the man usually pays, but it's the norm.

Mosty guys buy the food. But it does make sense for the person who planned the dinner to pay.

I always feel insecure when guys did that for me!

My husband said I was the first girl he dated who ever bought him drink for drink and when we went out for a meal I always asked him how much it cost so I could pay half (though he would never say).

To this day he still makes horrific faces when he sees the bill and pretends to faint :o)

It depends on who hosted the dinner, how much our respective meals cost, who paid before, and who has the money on hand. If I bought a $50 meal and my date only had a drink, then I would probably pay for myself. I don't believe in 'splitting' costs unless they're close to even.

If it truly is a date then the guy should pay

My first date ever I think I mortally insulted the guy by insisting I could pay for my own movie ticket. X-D Ever since, I've offered to buy my own way, but if he insists, hey go ahead & pay, and thanks.

I've never thought to ask "Would it be patronising if I offered to buy you dinner?" but maybe I should do from now on. And holding doors open for people, offering to help, etc.

Political correctness. Ugh!

Hm. Call me practical, but i don't feel patronized in a bad way.
If the other person pays, all the better, more spending money for me, then again, if _I_ invite people, it's usually home cooking.

So if i'm eating out, it's usually by invitation, and then the other person has a choice of where to go to control costs(i am not impressed by fancy restaurants, only by fancy food.)

Technically, i think i overcame that "reflex" to feel patronized the first times people who were already earning their own money bought me drinks during school/university. Handling "buying dinner" different would feel pretentious.

what happened to having a home cooked meal?

Why even ask such a question? Ofcourse the majority of girls are going to say "Oh no, I don't think that", but actions speak louder than words.
They'll say "We'll split the cost" on this poll, but they'll expect the guy to say "want to split the cost?", they won't say "I'll pay for half", and the guy obviously isn't going to ask for her to pay half, which females know that.