Do girls really love assholes?
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| No | 135 |
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aussiewolf
well of course i love my asshole. if i didnt have an asshole, i couldnt take a shit!
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Aleks85
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disthing
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helmsman1
Girls(teenagers) love assholes untill they grow a brain, and sadly it can take them 20+ years.
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rin
I don't. I'm attracted to nice guys and quiet guys. It's so sweet when they act nervous. Aggressive guys are a turn off actually. I get bad vibes from them and I don't find them to be genuine.
I met my BF at work and the night he asked me out I was working alone in Cosmetics and he knocked over a display, I said I'd get it but he ran off saying he'd come back to clean it up. He told me he walked over about 10 times before he had the nerve to ask me out. ^.^
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PumpkinKate
That's... just...
ADORABLE!
I wish I was more like you. I find it cute and sweet when awkward guys do stuff like this, but I just don't get that spark of "ohmigod, I want him to do me now!" like I do with guys that are like... arrogant, confident, and a little aggressive.
I think the perfect match, however, is definitely someone who is genuinely sweet and nice, but isn't too shy to be a bit forward, and who thinks highly of himself, but doesn't flaunt it. It makes me feel good to be with someone who likes who they are and goes for what they want with a passion :)
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crimsonSunset
@rin:
That's so sweet. Clearly not all girls love assholes.
Being nervous is not bad, being foolish or lack of vision is bad. I think ur BF has none of these problems. Good match! Good luck!
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Saycheese
I think I'm actually a lot like you. I think its cute when a guy isn't for sure what to do around a girl, just all nervous. I more confident the more I think is he really caring about who I am or does he just think I'm hot.
But I have a feeling it might have to do with my past even though I don't think about it that much. Just the fact I can be shy and cautious too.
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Malaglinir
Girls only think and say they want a nice guy, but when push comes to shove they always pick the asshole. Not because they are particularly attracted to people with awful personalities, but because assholes typically have higher levels of confidence than passive guys with more docile personalities.
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Saycheese
Well I go for the nice guys. Plus there was this guy who was shy and next thing I know he doesn't bother being friends with me now. It sure seems like it anyways, I don't bother him though; never got clingy either. Moving on from that now.
So don't be saying all girls go for assholes. The guy has to be nice to me in order to get me.
I'm not like most girls though. Some reason the more confident guy makes me more causious than a quiet guy in the corner who doesn't know what to say to a girl. I think its cute too.
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Malaglinir
In response to the portion where you said 'The guy has to be nice to me in order to get me'. Assholes usually act nice in the beginning and then as the relationship moves forward their true personality starts to come forth. At least this is the cycle I've seen in my experiences from a 3rd person view.
I don't mean to imply that all extroverts are assholes and all introverts are nice guys, but I seem to see a bit of a correlation between the two. Exceptions do exist of course.
The reason that assholes appear to get more girls is because girls typically aren't the ones who initiate approaches and since many assholes have high amounts of confidence, they have no problem with making a first move. On the flip-side, shy guys typically have a bit less confidence in their social skills and are less likely to approach a girl which means that even if the girl has a preference for shy guys, she probably will never even have a chance to meet him.
It isn't necessarily a matter of preference to the girls, because I'm sure there are girls who are attracted to somewhat shyer men since they are less intimidating. The real matter is the fact that assholes tend to make the approaches without a second thought whereas the nice shyer guys secretly admire the girl from across the room and rarely make a move. So in the end, unless the girl makes a move, the vast majority of the men making moves on them are assholes and as a result their options are primarily composed of those types.
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Saycheese
Yeah I understand where you are getting at there but for me, I have to be friends with the guy for awhile before giving him a chance. That means seeing who he really is before giving him a chance. But what am I say I never even had a boyfriend before but thats how I take it.
I have more trust issues now with a past ex guy friend. He was nice at first then he showed the really him when I had lived with him for almost a year, last year. He was my roomie with two other girls.
But right now I have this rather confident nice guy who likes me, and I don't want to give him any signs that I like him more than a friend because who knows he might turn around on me too. But I have a big feeling he won't for some reason, maybe because he really does have learning disabilities just like me and always ask what I would like to do instead of making plans ahead. Who knows though.
Plus like I said before I find shy guys rather cute. That bashful smile always gets me; I can't help but feel tingly inside. :) Although I took that approach before but I ended up getting somewhat hurt. I'll never tell the guy though, he really was nice and you are right on the social skills part. There was something there about him that I couldn't figure out. Maybe he was love-shy or had social anxiety. Who knows.
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PumpkinKate
^ This. Also, if a woman is with someone who thinks he's the best thing since sliced bread, what does that say about the woman he chooses? You have to be pretty damn awesome to be with the king of the universe.
It's all part of the cruel joke that is dating :P
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mustang88
Weird. I find asshole guys want to bang everything in site. They have to look "cool" to their friends, and the best way to do that is to see how many girls they can get. I think younger girls probably think like you and that's why they like the asshole and want to be with him. But in reality, he will be with as many girls as he can, regardless of whether they are attractive, "awesome" or whatever else.
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Britton
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rin
I think us girls are smart enough to know when someone is being genuine or not even when we first meet them. :)
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joybird
They like them in order to have a laugh but they don't want to marry one and be stuck with a fool when they grow up!!
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Corleone
Being a nice guy doesn't equate being boring, and being an asshole doesn't equate being fun. I've never had to act like an asshole to get a girl.
I know this might seem shocking to you, but girls are people too. They want a guy who is confident and respects them. No one likes someone who's a jerk.Comment Hidden ( show )
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Anime7
Introverts are usually nice guys but don't assert themselves like jerks do. Extroverts on the other hand are appear fun and desirable to be around, and those guys are usually jerks, not all though. So basically nice guys don't make themselves noticed by women, while jerks do and thus they get the girl.
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Corleone
I don't think extroverts tend to be jerks more often than introverts. A great deal of introverts are jerks as well, it's just harder to notice since they never step up. I don't get why quiet people are equated with nice people. It takes a lot more guts to be loud and extroverted.
Introverts can be either good or bad people, but since they don't dare to step up, it's hard to notice what kind of personality they have.
There's no correlation between extroversion and mean behavior, so I don't agree that introverts are usually nice guys and extroverts are usually jerks.Comment Hidden ( show )
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mustang88
I liked assholes when I was like 19-20. I had this image in my head that I wanted to be the one to "change him". You know, make the player stop wanting to be a player. I grew up. I can't stand arrogant, self-absorbed guys that are on a mission to get laid any more. I have no patience for it. I'm not really sure what made me change so abruptly, but I'm more about respect now. If something is going to piss me off, don't do it. If you're going to be a rude prick, get out of my house. But in my experience, if the guy is an asshole and actually likes you.... he stops being an asshole pretty fricken fast if he thinks you're going to leave. If he is an asshole and still doesn't give a crap that you're going to leave, why would you want to be with him anyways.
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Corleone
If that's true, then I bet the 33 people who answered 'yes' on this question have a great love life.
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missy18
Of course there aren't only assholes and shy guys- there are mixes in between.
What about a genuine confident guy that isn't an asshole?Comment Hidden ( show ) -
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PumpkinKate
A funny asshole who if you get him away from his asshole friends, actually turns out to be a super sweet guy when he thinks nobody's looking is the best.
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mustang88
only to your face though. You want a guy that's still going to be respectful of you when you're not around. If he gets around his friends and needs to be "the man", he's going to do big asshole jerk things and not tell you about it. And his asshole friends won't either.
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PumpkinKate
Yeah but why do I care when that's all fake and a front anyway? I mean, personally I'd look for a man who didn't need to act this way to prove himself, but if I *was* to be with a guy like this, I would know the REAL him, beneath the insecurity that makes him act out, and I would likely not care, simply attributing it to "dude stuff".
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seabird_71
You have a very good point.
I've seen tons of guys do this: Act nicer and more laid back when he's away from the friends of his that are ass holes. But when the dumb ass friends are around, you can forget it.Comment Hidden ( show )
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[Old Memory]
Woman should really be concerned with whether the guy is an asshole or not, nobody really should be.
Woman should be more worried about how clean the kitchen floor is, how much dusting needs to get done, vacuuming, laundry and ironing as well.
Then when thats done its time to start dinner. I dont see much free time for them to be worrying about guys being an asshole or not.
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ThatOneDudez
Oh... I read "Do girls really like assholes" as something along the lines of "Do girls really like anal?"
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Well fuck, I picked the wrong option...Comment Hidden ( show ) -
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GoraIntoDesiGals
They don't like assholes per se, they go for looks contrary to the popular belief that girls aren't as visual as men. And men with good looks often become assholes.
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IDiGAFi
They don't love assholes. It makes them a little horny at first, but in time they grow sick of them.
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kelili
I was with an asshole once but after the experience I have dated only decent guys with decent jobs from decent families
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stalkinurmom
No.Girls may come to a guy if he's an ass,but she will stay if he's kind.For example,I dated this guy cause I loved his hawk and I stayed with him caused he was a gentlemen.CAUSE THAT'S HOW I ROLL!!!
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GeorgiaRain
assholes have this aggressive and cocky attitude that really turns me on...
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[Old Memory]
My ex bf turned out to be an a** hole, but yet I was sure at the time that I loved him and that he loved me...
It took me about 2 months to actually end it with him because I didn't have the guts to do it sooner...Point right there prooven that girls do fall for assholes :/
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bleach_baby
I like guys who are confident, self assured, and can give a bit of banter and back and forth. Most girls like guys like this. Hence, the guys are spoiled for choice which can result in assholey behaviour. The assholey behaviour is incidental, it's not the attraction.
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Muffin43
I don't love assholes.
but i know a lot of other girls end up dating assholes and leaving the good guys who actually know how to treat a girl in the dark.Comment Hidden ( show ) -
HardCandyKiss87
although some of them are shy there are nice guys out there that are outgoing and friendly---but you're not going to find them in the same places as the "assholes" i've met nice guys in places where house music isnt blasting my ears and the guys arent sloppy drunk and looking for a piece of ass...bookstores, music stores, anywhere where alcohol and short skirts arent involved is a great place to meet a someone...and sometimes those assholes are only assholes in front of their friends...get them alone and its a whole 'nother ball game...you can say i'm old fashioned...i say i have class...so to summarize NO. Not all girls like assholes.
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purplegirl22
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PumpkinKate