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Is it very rare for girls to like their male friend once he confess his hidden crush he had on her?
It seems like the only time a girl dates her male friend as her new boyfriend is if she confess her hidden crush on him first.
I agree with GoraInto you need that sexual attraction. So let it be and move on to the next girl.
This seems common but I will never understand why.
Logically the best relationship would be with someone you've been friends with for a while.
I would never want to date a girl I haven't known for long.
in reality it is just as true. Though few girls realize that dating their friend is the best decision they'll ever make in their entire life, some do, and it works out wonderfully for them.
Few do it, and it works for few.
Ask a person who has been with someone for a long time if they were actually good friends before they started going out, 99% will say no. Friends are the people you settle down with when your love life fails for the decided last time in middle age. And that's not an opinion, that's actually common knowledge. "Safe people" they're often called, because they're known to you, you know all about them, and they're kind of safe and loyal due to the fact that they can't find anyone besides someone they already found! So they make good partners for those with similar personalities, the personality of a wet rag.
So sure you're right, but I'm talking about normal people. People who like some mystery, like to grow as people with people. Not stick around with the boredom and mediocrity of someone they already know, because that's what friends are for!
You are right. 99% of people date people they didn't even know to start out with, and that imo is 100% of the reason why the vast majority of relationships fail. Your friend isn't the safe bet because it's a back up plan, it's a safe bet because you will absolutely get along with each other for the rest of your lives and be happy because it was meant to be. You also truly know who your friend is, unlike in the dating world, where you only meet the good side of people who are trying extra hard to impress you, but will more often than not turn into something ugly down the road. You also know that a friend has good intentions, and there is a solid base of trust. (also, I get a sense that you are misunderstanding me. I'm not saying you have to be friends for a while first, but you need to at least be friends for a good enough amount of time that you get to know the real person, and not the "fake" person. i'm also not saying people should have a, "hey if we aren't married at age 40, then lets get married" friend. I'm saying people should be friends first, and eventually one will fall head over heals for the other, and if the female has an open mind, and doesn't have a date-my-dad mentality, then the relationship that forms will be special and never ending) And your last paragraph is completely null and void and makes zero sense. You are saying that a couple who has been together for 3 years isn't as good of a relationship as a couple who has only been dating a week. It sounds to me like you just aren't a serious relationship type of person if all you want is what is new and fun but won't last.
I for one will NEVER date a stranger ever again. You only end up wasting a year of your life getting to know someone, only to realize that they are a crazy bitch who can't be trusted, and the one and only thing you ever liked about them was how into you they were and the love and care they showed you that no one but a significant other can. I'm always open to making new platonic female friends though.
She wouldn't have friendzoned you in the first place if she was attracted initially.
No, they don't. In fact, I only fall for guys who start out as my friends, I need to know them before I develop feelings for them. I'm actually kind of repulsed by guys who straight up hit on me as soon as we meet. The thing that bothers me is when a guy does try to be my friend but acts desperate. That scares girls off a bit.
I think the opposite happens more often, as I am the one who always ends up friendzoned by guys, and know many girls who have the same happen to them. Guess guys don't like when girls confess to them.
It's not that guys don't like when girls confess to them, it's that there is a reason that the guy didn't confess his love for you first: because you aren't his type. One of my friends in High School confessed her love for me and I didn't do a thing about it until a week later she was like, you know I like you, so lets date. And I was just like, okay. She was a super nice girl and all, but she just wasn't my type, and I was never into her, which after 3 months she finally realized and broke it off.