Do gay people use...sexual "codes"?
Ok so I'm not completely sure if this is what happened but I'm thinking it is.This was a couple of years ago.
I am a straight male. I stayed at my Uncle's house for a weekend for my cousin's wedding. Two of my cousin's brothers also stayed there and we were all 23+. I had been staying in one room for a few days until, I can't remember why or how, one of his brothers ended up taking my room and I would sleep on the downstairs couch.
Because of this, most of my clothes were still in that room. (He is gay by the way). I was getting up early the next day and needed clothes so I went in and went straight for my suitcase assuming he would be fast asleep and wanting to just get out of there quickly. By the time I was already 10 feet in, I realized he was moving around a lot in his sheets. It took a few seconds to register in my head at the time, but I'm pretty sure he was masturbating.
The next day, I was collecting my clothes as I was heading back home that day (everyone else was out of the house) and I believe he had..."finished" in two pairs of my boxers.
Yes, he is gay and pretty open about it. Lives in one of USA's gay communities and goes to gay bars and I believe was or maybe still is in an open relationship.
What I'm asking is was he using some kind of code when he finished in my boxers, like is that saying "I think you're hot" or "you embarrassed me the other night" or something? I guess I could see like sniffing mine and finishing elsewhere but to go all out on my boxers...I couldn't believe it naturally.
I was disgusted and felt violated and left them in the trash can in the bathroom as I found them. What is the psychology behind this? If there was no message intended, he surely had no shame in finishing on my boxers so it seems a bit of an odd accident. I don't know if he somehow thought I was gay and I know some girls will do stuff like leave panties at your place on purpose...is it something like that?
I think it's ridiculous that it happened and I actually just thought about it today after suppressing it I guess. I have never really been close to him as a cousin or his brothers but we usually all do get along when we do see each other which isn't often. Maybe it would be less confusing if he was a straight female cousin who was flirting with me, I'm not sure. I'm sorry if this post came across as homophobic, just don't get what happened? I'm bad at interpreting flirting or gestures as it is