Disrepectful nephews

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I have a brother who is very successful engineer. He has 2 boys 9 & 12 years old who are very mouthy and disrespectful. His wife comes from a family who do not get along with most of the relatives and are very negative.

My question is how to deal with these two boys who think it is OK to say and do whatever they want to me without any discipline from their parents. In fact they are egged on by the parents. The parents give them ideas on what to do and say to everyone. I am not the only family member with this problem. The parents think it is funny whatever comes out of their mouths, and if anyone tries to correct the boys, they are the bad ones.

My final straw was today at my nephew's basketball game. After the game, my sister-in-law complained I talked during the game, and she or them,got a story completely screwed up, which my nephews repeated to all. Now there is trouble brewing again because of their mouths. The parents, by the way are in their late 30s/early 40s.

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  • Candiheart.
    12 years ago

    I put yes its normal, i see this situation happen so much. Not that i agree with it at all.Parents these days need to learn how to handle their children, honestly there is no Parenting Class 101 but its common sense you as their aunt should say something to the parents and children.

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  • ben_goldstein
    15 years ago

    By "Parents", you are obviously including your brother. Which would make a good start. You should invite your brother over and have a discussion about it. The first thing you should let him know, is you don't like how his kids have shown great disrespect to you, an adult and their Uncle, And you DO NOT find their snide remarks and sassy comments the least bit amusing. Let him know that others in the family feel the same way you do, that you volunteered to discuss it with him.

    Then let your brother know that unless he improves his kids' attitudes and teach them how to respect others, they are no longer welcome in your home, you will no longer attend any events with them, and they will receive nothing from you. You will not commit yourself to any obligations involving family members who will not show any due respect in return for your own good intentions. Let him know that anything you would have spent on his kids is going to other nephews and nieces instead, as a kind of bonus for them being good respectful kids.

    If he is any kind of REAL brother he will understand your feelings, and do his best to accommodate your wishes. He can relay the message to his wife, and if she doesn't like it, too bad. You and your brother are blood and grew up together, and THAT is something she has NO business trying to come between, even if she is his wife. she should understand that, and so should he.

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  • Darkbloom
    15 years ago

    It is not normal. Obviously their parents are not fit to raise decent children. Who on earth would actually encourage disrespectful behavior from their children and find it funny when the kids have been sassy with someone? Tell them exactly what they are; A "family" of disrespectful and inane people that you can no longer stand to be around. Tell them that they won't be receiving holiday gifts from you or seeing you at their basketball games anymore - until they alter their behavior!

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  • drugsrbadmkay
    11 years ago

    Nothing a good beating or 10 won't fix.

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  • squiddle
    12 years ago

    I would show them this. The idiots.

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  • [Old Memory]
    15 years ago

    Be a positive role model to these nephews - they need it. Set an example, and put limits on their bad behaviour. I agree with Ben - talk to your brother. But I don't agree that you should cut these children out of your life.

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  • gunfreak
    14 years ago

    they need a good ass whooping

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  • MidnightBlossom
    15 years ago

    Little brats. It annoys me the most out of ANYTHING.
    Im very respectful to people, and kids are so unaware it makes me efing CRAZY!!!!
    Really, you should punish them. Lol, get the cane!

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