Discussion: who is worse?

And here I was, thinking we were all equal . . .

It is equally shitty for either parent to do that. I have divorced parents and my Dad disappeared and it was a huge damning thing in my life. I have moved on from it but the damage it caused is there.

Neither is worse than the other, both situations are unfair to the kids, but it is more unusual for a mother to do this than a father, probably because mothers usually have closer bonds with their kids.

I'm going to get my head bit off for this but here it goes.

Apparently studies have said a father's love is more important to a child's mental development so based on that I would say it would suck more for the father to leave. However if that isn't really the case then I would say both are as bad as one another and obviously it would be ideal for none of the parents to leave as both are needed.

This isn't really relevant to the question but I would say children should stay with the parent that is more capable of providing for their child if the primary provider isn't a worse parent. That way the taxpayers don't pay for the children and the child is with the more responsible parent.

Ugh. I don't really care about equality, double standards, gender roles, or whatever in this instance. The most important thing here is that the child is cared for by the person who can do the best job! The child is the most important person in this scenario and children tend to do best with two parents!

I think it would also depend on the gender of the children.

While, I want to say both parents are equal, that's not realistic. If I were to ignore diverse personalities and pretend that all parents are wonderful, I feel like for female children, a father would benefit them more and for male children, a mother would benefit them more.

Hence, the common saying of "daddy's girl" and/or "momma's boy". I think the opposite sex parents hold different outlooks and lessons that you wouldn't get otherwise.

Who said men and women are truly equal by societal standards? Women still get paid less and men are still expected not to hit a woman, even if they hit them first. In what world is that "equal"? Granted, it's a lot better here than a few other places, but it's not the same.

Males are the protectors and providers for our species, females are the nurturers. Political correctness and western civilization have tried to screw this up but it can't ever be changed.

I find it interesting that in watching nature documentaries males of mammalian species have little to do with raising young outside of siring.

I think it's equal. That baby is half of each of them. I agree parents play I different part in a child's life though.

I think it depends. A women carries a baby and gives birth, which is why I think women understand the importance of caring for their kids more often.

Both my wives dumped the kids on me and split.